carter26 Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 I am so confused and I need your help people. My I guess ex-boyfriend but we have been still sleeping together and seeing each other a little here and there so I guess I am still seeing him in a way I have no idea what you call that? We just have not cut the cord 100%. We are not sure if this breakup is forever or what we are just not sure. Anyway so we were together for over a year he nevered said I love you to me he would only say I care about you etc. never love he does not like to use that word it is a very powerful word to him and then last night when we were with each other I said I love you so much, as I always have and he said back to me I love you, then again later that night when we were making out he said it again he said I love you too.... Wow so he went from never saying it to saying it to me twice in one night, what does this mean? I mean we are not even together or anything and he finally said it, man he finally said it I am so shocked. Then he said to me after saying I love you the 2nd time "I just don't know if I can be with you forever" I am scared of that...so he loves me now but is afraid to commit to me or does he want to be with me but he is afraid of how he is really feeling inside and thinks it may lead to marriage? He is very thoughtful and takes life serious regarding love, kids and marriage I am just thinking he is afraid of the idea of it maybe becoming a marriage like he just wants to push me away to overcome that fear from happening? Am I right? Help me please I do not know what to do with this I am so confused..... Link to post Share on other sites
misty123 Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 I think that if you are really not dating you should move on you can have sex with any one. I like sex to be fulfilling in all ways. He does not seem to be fulfilling you on a emotional basis. I would cut off ties with him. I wouldn't expect to be to gether forever. I agree that he shouldn't say it until he means it but he could mean it more ways than one. Such as I love being your friend with benefits or I love having sex with you. It sounds to me he is just telling you what you want to hear. Dump his sorry butt 100% and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author carter26 Posted June 18, 2004 Author Share Posted June 18, 2004 I can understand however I do think he really loves me because he has never said it and to him that word carries so much meaning he would NEVER say it for any other reason other then to mean it. I do know that for a fact, he has always been honest with what the word love means to him from even before we started dating, I know he meant he loves me. Not for sex etc. I just wonder if finally that he has opened up something more may happen? I mean should I try now that the air has been cleared and his front is down? Do I just move on as if he never said it and see what his actions are? We are not young people playing games we are 27 with kids etc. (my kids not his) I just need to know what I should do and I do not want responses that aren't helpful because you think this is a young kid or etc. Please help! Link to post Share on other sites
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