enigmatic Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 I have been going to this food joint for about a year where this cute guy has worked, and one day a while back I noticed him looking at me...you know in that unusual stare that most guys don't give unless they are checking you out. He's had me hooked ever since and him and had have made small talk whenever I would go in there. I have been meaning to flirt and ask him out but the opportunity never arose because he was always so busy at work. Fast forward to the other day, I found him on facebook and added him and told him who I was and he remembered me. I made an effort to be flirty, so our convo has went like this so far: Me: Hey. Just doing a round of internet stalking and found you. It's (me) from (my place of work) by the way. Him: Hello there Its not that hard to find me lmao but i dont work at that (place) anymore btw im at (a different location) just letting ya know Me: That would explain why I haven't seen you in a while then. I might make an appearace sometime then. Him: i moved there like a month ago they needed help down there so i took the raise and went i do not like it there but its slowly getting better and i would look forward to seeing u there Me: What hours do you usually work? I am still at---- if you ever want to stop by at 8am lol Him: my hours are either 7=2 8-4 and 9-5 im not on a set schedule so any day could be different Does it sound like he's interested or just being nice? Also, what is something flirty I could say back to him? Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 Sounds like he might be interested - he's given you all the details of his new job location plus said that he'd look forward to seeing you there. I think an, "I'll make sure to pop in to say hi then," should suffice. Friendly but not overtly flirty and enough to keep the conversation and interaction going. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author enigmatic Posted April 21, 2012 Author Share Posted April 21, 2012 Thanks! When do you think a good time to ask him out would be? Link to post Share on other sites
Ellamay Posted April 24, 2012 Share Posted April 24, 2012 I think if he was interested he would be the one contacting you, initiating conversation with you, asking you out. Not just telling you where he works and giving you hours. Thats petty stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
Author enigmatic Posted April 24, 2012 Author Share Posted April 24, 2012 (edited) I think if he was interested he would be the one contacting you, initiating conversation with you, asking you out. Not just telling you where he works and giving you hours. Thats petty stuff. True. I think he at least thinks I am attractive. Before I added him on facebook (when I used to see him at his work) I noticed him looking at me like I mentioned before. But it wasn't just a look, it was a longer look, one might call "a moment." That is what intially made me notice him, otherwise he would be just another guy to me. But every time, he would make lots of eye contact, make convo, and he started referring to me as "the Target girl" because that's where I work and I always came there right after work so I was still in my uniform. Half the time I would come in with this other guy I worked with, so he may have thought I was taken too. But I still tried to make eye contact, smile, and talk to him to give him a hint. I don't know how well he picked up on that before, but now I have made it more obvious. As for him, he has no wedding ring and his facebook status is unlisted, but I don't know what his relationship status is otherwise. I think he might have a kid because his profile pic is one of him and a small boy sitting together. However, he hasn't contacted me again since that convo above, but maybe he is just waiting on a reply from me because I never replied to him after the message he sent telling me his hours. Maybe could be waiting on me to show up at his work place too. I guess what I am trying to get at is that even though he might not intiating things, I am still hoping he would agree to go out if I asked him. Or am I being delusional here? Edit: It didn't copy and paste but in the messages, he was quite generous with the smilie faces. Edited April 24, 2012 by enigmatic Link to post Share on other sites
Zabs Posted April 25, 2012 Share Posted April 25, 2012 So sorry! I had to laugh! It's equally cool for you to appraoch him! You just seem to have a confidence issue. If he din't like something about you he wouldn't talk to you! Like January said..keep convo light and take it from there..some people have too high an expectation of a person they have not long met or don't really know. Usually this stems from a fear of rejection or previous experience combined with either low self esteem or slight arrogance. You live once..Get in there! Much love, Zabs xx Link to post Share on other sites
Author enigmatic Posted April 28, 2012 Author Share Posted April 28, 2012 (edited) I honestly think you're trying to see things that simply aren't there. His replies don't sound very interested at ALL. You've thrown the bait out a couple of times now and he hasn't taken it. The only SHRED of interest he showed was when he said he'd "look forward to seeing you at his workplace." That's HARDLY the thing dreams are made of. I mean, what's he supposed to say - "don't you DARE show up there!" It simply sounds like a POLITE response to you saying you might make an appearance. When you made a joke about him stopping by your place of work to see you at 8 am, he completely blew it off and didn't even take the bait. Instead, he opted to list his work schedule. There's not ONE thing in this conversation between you two that could be construed as him being interested. I think if he were interested, he'd ask for your number or at the very least, suggest that you could see each other OUT of your workplaces. He didn't do either. You have a point. He didn't leave a lot of clues leaning towards being interested in what he actually said. I have been blown off before and from my experience, if a guy isn't interested, 9 times out of 10 he will refrain from replying to my messages at all. He replied to me within a few hours each time and used several smiley faces which is what seems like a positive thing, and it seems like unusual facebook behavior for a guy who wouldn't at least be somewhat interested. A guy who's not interested will either not reply, or take forever to reply. He will write in very short, vague, choppy sentences with bad grammar and punctuation (because he doesn't care about making an impression" like "ya cool. whatev." Also like I said, I have no idea what his love life situation is like. He might actually be seeing someone, I don't know. If he's not interested in me that way, I wouldn't mind just being friends with him either. Edited April 28, 2012 by enigmatic Link to post Share on other sites
Author enigmatic Posted April 29, 2012 Author Share Posted April 29, 2012 I haven't stopped back by his workplace yet, and the only communication I have had with him in the last couple days is a poke war on facebook. What should I do to find out for sure if he's interested? Should I go by his work, or just ask him out now on facebook and see if he agrees to go out? Link to post Share on other sites
Author enigmatic Posted May 2, 2012 Author Share Posted May 2, 2012 Today he randomly messaged me and told me he switched back to the other other and I should come see him some time, so I take that as a good sign. Link to post Share on other sites
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