Mr Mellow Posted October 4, 2000 Share Posted October 4, 2000 I'm alittle confused with my relationship. My wife tells me that there is something wrong with our relationship. But when I ask her to give me the details of whats wrong she tells me that I already know. Now, I can't and I'm pretty sure no one can read minds. There are things about me that upset her. When we make love she seldom looks at me in my face and her eyes are always closed. She is very quite and soft spoken when it comes to love making. I don't want to think bad, but she leaves me no choose to make my own perception of why people do that when making love. I know she loves me to the fullest. She does things for me that other women would not do for there man or husband. It's seems when tings start to get better. She tells me that there is still something wrong with our relationship. The last thing that I would want to do is not make her happy. But if I'm not just tell me so I can fix the problem so I can turn the heat up on the warmth she wants and deserves. Mellow Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted October 4, 2000 Share Posted October 4, 2000 Typically, when a woman starts behaving this way, it is because she feels unappreciated, not listened to, rejected, neglected, or otherwise is not getting the warm special feelings from her man that would make her happy. I can also tell you from experience when a woman starts behaving like this it's an early warning sign for something far more serious. When a woman won't tell you what's bothering her, it's usually because she has told you millions of times and you paid no attention so she has given up. The communication in your marriage has totally broken down. First, you have to start helping her to feel more special in your life, like you are NOT taking her for granted. You have to make her feel she's a lot more to you than a sex partner (that's basically all you mentioned in your post, the lovemaking). Then you have to jump start the communications again, start talking to her and start expressing your feelings to her and vice versa. Start taking her out places and doing things with her, movies, concerts, theatre, parties, special events, church, sports, whatever the two of you enjoy. If you have no common interests outside the bedroom, find some pretty quick. By the way, many people make love with their eyes closed and, frankly, I don't think many people look at each other in the face as they are making love, depending on the position. Actually, I think a great many prefer eyes closed. But if it will make you happy for her to open her eyes and look at your face while making love, why don't you just ask her? It's not like you're asking her to jump off the Empire State Building. The two of you have GOT TO START COMMUNICATING or it will all be over one day soon. I'm telling you...this situation is a lot more serious than you think. I'm glad you posted now instead of waiting until she was gone. There is still time to save this!!! Link to post Share on other sites
synik Posted October 16, 2000 Share Posted October 16, 2000 Maybe she suspects you are cheating on her. If you are... Link to post Share on other sites
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