Tasion Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 Ok I have already posted but I need to know if anyone has this problem. I found out recently that my ex is involved with a new gf but says I cheated (I didn't but it was his excuse to move on). I was so angry and hurt but I know that this for the best, I wasn't truely happy, and don't want him to be right now. (very petty, it'll pass). But a friend told me to prove I can do the same and get back on the horse! I joined a few dating sights, and have been asked already for dates by male aquaintances. But I can't get over the "yeah and what are you after? Same crap as every other male?" I stare at the screens and profiles and hate it. They are just pictures, people can hide behind and lie behind. To avoid a total melt down I deleted all my accounts, changed my numbers and thought (breifly) about moving lol. I hate whinning but right now I feel the need for someone to say "It's fine, they are not all jerks!" lol Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 Of course they are not. You are looking in the wrong places. Online dating isn't for everyone and to be honest - speaking from experience - you will talk to a higher percentage of bad quality men than you would in real life. Partly because in real life you can spot some random weirdo easier without having extensive conversations with him and partly because there are a lot of married guys online looking to cheat. Don't worry about competing with your ex. Expand your social circle, take up hobbies, join local meetup groups, meet new people that way. You will meet men in a more natural environment. Sifting through profiles trying to judge people based on a couple of dodgy photos and a resume is very unnatural. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 Changing everything and moving is running away from the problem. You have to look within yourself and figure out what you contributed for this relationship to get its result. For instance, if your ex bf treated you badly, why did you stay with him? You can move all you want, but the major problem will still be there, your man picker. You fix that, and you wont have to shut down, and as a matter of fact, you will feel much better about men and life in general after you figure that out. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 Changing everything and moving is running away from the problem. You have to look within yourself and figure out what you contributed for this relationship to get its result. For instance, if your ex bf treated you badly, why did you stay with him? You can move all you want, but the major problem will still be there, your man picker. You fix that, and you wont have to shut down, and as a matter of fact, you will feel much better about men and life in general after you figure that out. No she just freaked out about online dating that's all. Link to post Share on other sites
BurningDream Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 I don't like online dating either, its to dissociative. I like the idea of expanding your social circle and just doing things you love, meeting somebody that way. The more you do, the farther in the direction you want to be going and the farther away from your ex you will be. Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 Online dating stinks. Chat up guys in person, you can filter them much better that way. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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