A problem to think about.

[ConsiderateThinker]

First of all, thank you for taking the time to read this in the first place. On to the problem...well, obviously it is of love. I suffer from the desire to be with a certain woman, yet as is the case for most men in my situation, I know not of her feelings for me. In that light, I cannot determine what course of action to take. And thus you come in to aid me in my troubles.

 

Let me start by expressing my affection towards her. And how better to do that than by describing her? She is the kind of woman whom you can only have other women compared to. Her face is of natural beauty; her hair is a shoulder length, dark coloured wave. When you run your fingers through it, the sensation is not unlike that of feeling silk. Her eyes...they are very easy to get lost in, I will say that. Her skin is a light tan, which is actually natural. Her figure holds excellent poise; she is a dancer, after all. When she is upon the stage, I can just feel the elegance eminating from her.

 

And, uh...she ain't that bad looking', if you know what I mean.

 

Sexual humor aside, her personality, oddly enough, is difficult to discern. We do get along well, so I assume it holds similarities to my own.

 

In a non-obsessive manner, I have constantly thought of her, night and day, as I do now. She is my heart's desire--a weak heart, yes, but a heart nonetheless.

 

Now I suppose I should move on to the whole matter of our history of knowing one another. She and I have both attended a summer camp for actors and actresses for a couple of years now, and it was here that we've been able to meet. So far, I've only gone for two years, so that is how long I've known her. At first, we became properly acquainted. Later, there came a camp-related dance. During said dance, there was a slow dance. Normally, I'd be sitting at this part, due to me hardly ever getting to dance with a gal. Then, she comes to me and asks for a dance, and so I accepted. After this, we got more knowledgable of each other. Yet for the first year, not much more than that happened.

 

But it was the second year that had my eyebrows raised. She and I met again and chatted as friends do. Again, the dance occured; yet this time, she looked into my eyes in such a peculiar manner. Me, being the fool I was, looked all about the room. And then it was later that she began to come and ask me for advice on more...personal matters (I.e. "Is there enough time for me to go to the bathroom before the last number?" I said yes, but...well, I didn't quite need to know that matter was going on in her blatter). When we would go onstage, she would always be at my side in the wings. I think I caught a few glances at me from the corner of my eye, but it might be false sightings. Lastly, there's always a hugging session after the last performance, and so she and I got to hug. But before we completely pulled away, she put her hands on my shoulders and said, "It was wonderful seeing you this year."

 

Since then, I've been considering the possibility of her liking me. Yet I could always be over thinking the matter. Or perhaps in the time since then and now, she's fallen for someone grander than I. Maybe she never liked me at all. I just don't know, damnit!

 

Furthermore, she lives a good distance from me. She and I have connections online, though; we are, in fact, friends on Facebook. Yet she is hardly on. What's more, I haven't messaged her or anything recently, as it'd be awkward speaking out of the blue to someone you haven't seen in a while. So I'd be willing to have a long-distance relationship.

 

Lastly, I'll only have a two-week period to charm her any further before we leave again, so I need to know what I can do to show that I like her, but without being too obvious.

 

Help would be greatly appreciated.

[hfsn]

First of all you need to talk to her more this year. Try to get to know her on a more personal front, show you are interested in listening to her and ask her questions that would help indicate if you are suited to one another e.g. what hobbies does she have, what kind of music does she like etc.

 

Whilst talking and listening look for subtle hints that she likes you, observe her body language. The trick to using body language for seduction purposes is to gain the ability to purposely pick up on and identify the signals that women send out subconsciously, then use those body language signals to gather information that you can use. Once you make eye contact with her, watch her for a few seconds after she looks away. If she does something that implies that she has become nervous due to you making eye contact, this means that she is interested in or attracted to you. For example, she will: play with her hair, adjust her clothing or jewelry, or fiddle with something in her hands. This behavior shows you that making eye contact with you had an emotional effect on her.

 

You mentioned that last year she kept eye contact for a long time and that you nervously looked away. If she is interested in you and finds you to be attractive, she may attempt to make eye contact with you and hold it for a longer period of time than is the norm, almost uncomfortably long by some standards. This time before looking away, remember to smile at her. This will let her know that you are interested as well and are a nice guy!

 

There are simpler tell tale signs such as she may lean forward toward you when you speak, if she is into you she will have her feet pointing toward you and when talking she may touch her neck or flick her hair, all positive open body language that shows she likes you.

 

If it all goes well and you feel that you are conecting better than ever I would advise to ask her out, for a coffee say at the end of a days acting, after the hug! You are not confessing to her how you feel about her just by asking her for a coffee but from there you will be able to judge how well it is going and if she is into you coffee can turn into dinner and dinner into a date!

 

I am of course assuming that this lady isn't married or already in a relationship, if she is that would change everything!