Confussed Posted June 19, 2004 Share Posted June 19, 2004 My mom passed six weeks ago and my friend has been here for me, up until today. She has been helping me pack my moms stuff. I asked her not to take anyone over there. While today she took a woman that I asked her three times not to have go there. I do not trust very many people, she said that she never left her site, but 5 hours and not take your eyes off someone, that is hard for me to believe. I used to trust my friend, but after today, I do not know if I can feel the same. I am very hurt, but she said she needed help, since I was not helping pack. I can't believe that she Dis-respected my moms pad like that. It would of been different if I had never asked her not take anyone there. Am I wrong for feeling the way I do right now. What hurts even worse is she keeps saying I am wrong for being upset. I hurt her about six month's ago, I really felt bad and was very sorry for what I had done, she forgive me, she says, but through that in my face and said so when you hurt me I forgave you. Link to post Share on other sites
simplybrill Posted June 19, 2004 Share Posted June 19, 2004 at this time, with the stress of your mom passing (my condolences) it might be best to look past this thing with your friend, I understand it was disrespectful of her to take that stranger to your mom's place, but instead of fighting, you guys need to stick together, cuz the road's gonna get rocky as you deal with the issues that are to come up, because this is a big change in your life. If it would make you feel better, maybe you should sit down with her and explain exactly what made you angry with her, and explain that its not the same instance (speaking of when you hurt her six months ago) because your mom just passed, and you really need her support in doing what your mom would want, which isnt having strangers go thru her things. She'll probably want you to understand that the lady was just helping her move things out of your mom's place, that she didnt want to press you on the topic because she knows you're dealing with things- so she just asked the lady to help her. It might not have occurred to her that asking this lady to help was insensitive. Link to post Share on other sites
daisyg61 Posted June 21, 2004 Share Posted June 21, 2004 i think you have to trues people a little more and that you should forgive her as she did with you i am really sorry about your mom, i hope you feel better. and remember no matter what a person do to you ,you have to forgive then because if you don't your not hurting that person your hurting yourself Link to post Share on other sites
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