rd1978 Posted June 19, 2004 Share Posted June 19, 2004 got a situation i could use some advice on,, i think im doing pretty good with it but could def use some outside advice... 5 year relationship... broke up about ummm 7 weeks ago.. things were drying up... at that point i had been stressed with work etc. etc. we were bolth taken each other for granted... or something along those lines,,, she broke up with me,,, saying she was confused ,,, she wants to be able to go out on a date if a guy asks her,, she wants to be able to go out with her friends without awnsering to anyone,,, she just doesnt want to have to worry about anyone,,,,, so i did tell her exactly what we need to do to make the relationship work,,, and she new i was right but wasnt going to do anything about it because she had just put herself through so much telling me that... so i say if this is what you want you cant be calling me,, do whatever it takes to not contact me at all for a long time,, if we see each other i will say i and what not... soooo an hour after that conversation she calls saying lets hang out tommorrow and see how i feel,, so i say ok give me a call tommorrow,, so then she calls we talk for a while and she ends up telling me she hung out with someone last night,, so i told her i wasnt hanging out w/ her and she cannot have her cake and eat it to.... { she wiil not play games with me after 5 years for some other dipsh*t} then it goes like this.... she called a couple of times the next week.. and I didnt awnser{ no thanks i have enough friends,,} and i refuse to be second best to to dude,, { this kid isnt good looking at all!! really skinny and really tall... } the only thing that comes to mind is that he buttered her up while we werent getting along soo 3 weeks go by she instant messages me a couple of time's i dint respond,,, so finally 4 weeks into it i respond after she put up an away message so i didnt have to talk to her,,, she calles me back that night on my phone then she calls the next day ,,i awnsered the next day,, she was sooooo excited to talk to me .. and we talked nonstop for 5 minutes, then i told her i had to go and i would talk to her sometime i guess....... she tries to instant message me some more,, i wouldnt respond ,, 2 weeks later i finally respopnd to her we ended up talking for an hour,, we bolth apoligized for some stuff and what not,, but it was the best conversation i had w/ her since the begining,,, there were no stall's it kept flowing...got off the computer she called my phone like 10 minutes later { it sounded like she had just gotten done crying } we talked for 15 minutes,, it was def the best conv. we had in a long time.... we were bolth laughing.. so i told her i was goign to sleep.... so 5 out of six days she has either called or instant messaged me,,,,,, that brings us to today,,,,, Our conversations are NOT going into the relationship.... they are just bs conversations that friends would have ,, which i think is how it should be {friends first} j now when i talked to her last night ,,, we talked for a coupld of minutes.. and i was like hey im going to get going.. so we said good bye,,, now it was a friday night so i porb made her mind wander a bit.. but i dont want to play games... but i dont want to be readly available either ... she di ask some questions though about who iw as suppost to go out with the other ngiht and things like that.... which i dont do to her... now i have not called her 1 time since we broke up,,, i have not wrote her 1 time,, and have onyl recently begun to respond to her,, i have not called her back ,, i just wait to talk untill the next time she gets ahold of me... i just dont want to push hre away but i think im doing ok because i make the conversations funny... and i dont know what the deal is witht this other guy,, i dont think its to serious not if she is contacting her ex 5 out of 6 days ,,, ,, it almost seemed that she was using thins kids for feelings and to make me jelious.... WHATS THE NEXT STEP .. asking her to hang out,, waiting for her to ask me???? being flirty w/ her...? i really do not think she would turn me down if i asked her to hang out,,, but the last thing i want to do is PUMP up her head..... BUt i hate playing games ,, i think she just needs a reality check,,,,, i just dont want her calling me this much to be my friend,, or to make sure im around if she decides she wants me back Link to post Share on other sites
disguy Posted June 19, 2004 Share Posted June 19, 2004 She's using the both of you. (better him then you eh?) Like you said she's just playing stupid, childish, immature, selfish games. Yeah you said yourself- give her that reality check and let her feel your pain. I wouldn't call, return, or wait around for her phone calls. Then when she's finally realizes that she can't have you back, she'll be wanting you more. I would say "kiss my ass and lick it too", but what you will probably do is reason with her and ask her if she's done playing games yet? Link to post Share on other sites
Author rd1978 Posted June 19, 2004 Author Share Posted June 19, 2004 well,, what im gonna do is keep it how it is im not putting an ounce of effort in other than talking to her when she calls or im's me,, so ill give it another week or two ,, and then i will say something to her or just cut her off on the computer,, so she has to call me on my cell,, the easiest way is to get 1 of my hotties to come out with me and let her get a taste of her own medicine if she wants to play like a immature kid.... i havent hung out w/ slept with her in like a month or longer,,, i know she is confused as hell right now ,, but it's either 1 or the other ,, she can either lose me forever { which she made a comment in a email right before us breaking up,,,,saying ,, my biggest fear is me taking my time trying to figure out what i want and you going of and finding someone else..... and me being stuck... yeah well she isnt stuck because she ran off and started hanging otu witht his guy so she wouldnt be,,, it pisses me off... he's is really unatractive and she doesnt make me the bit *****ng bit jelious its ok the game is on she can see me out hitting on other broads and see how much she likes the idea of us being single..... i dont want to play games i want to be able to tell her how i feel but it only seems to pump up he head,, { you tend to want the things that you cant have} so im going to make it like she cant have me ,,, If in a week or 2 nothing changes or she doesnt ask me to hang out ,,then im going to lay it on her and let her know im history ,, not to call anymore,, and ive decided not to want this anymore now or in the future,, see if she likes that reality check Link to post Share on other sites
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