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Hope I'm posting on the right forum. I'm in the process of trying to get over a break-up. The guy I like, lives in another country. I met him while I was on vacation. I went back to visit him for 2 weeks. Within those two weeks, he avoided me the entire time. When I got back to the US he told me that "he cannot love someone, that's why he told me he liked me".

 

I was about to delete him from my FB page when he told me that he wanted to remain friends, yet he has not made any attempt to say "hi" or anything in that manner. My problem is I am planning to move abroad (the country where he lives) next year to be a teacher. Do I tell him of my plans? Right now I feel completely humiliated and insulted by the way he treated me, and I don't want him to think that I am moving there because of him. Advise, please...

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Hi,

Hope I'm posting on the right forum. I'm in the process of trying to get over a break-up. The guy I like, lives in another country. I met him while I was on vacation. I went back to visit him for 2 weeks. Within those two weeks, he avoided me the entire time. When I got back to the US he told me that "he cannot love someone, that's why he told me he liked me".

 

I was about to delete him from my FB page when he told me that he wanted to remain friends, yet he has not made any attempt to say "hi" or anything in that manner. My problem is I am planning to move abroad (the country where he lives) next year to be a teacher. Do I tell him of my plans? Right now I feel completely humiliated and insulted by the way he treated me, and I don't want him to think that I am moving there because of him. Advise, please...

 

Move forward and don't look back. He doesn't deserve your holding back your own life when it's clear he doesn't want to make the effort.

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Why would you want to be "friends" with someone who ignores you for 2 weeks when youve travelled to another country to visit them? That completely baffles me? Secondly, why do you think you have a responsibility to tell him anything? He clearly does not care about you very much.

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Please try to understand that he isn't worth your time. Right now, you can go anywhere and do anything you want in life, but going after him will only slow you down. I understand that you have feelings for him, but realize that as soon as you get over this guy, the door will open up for a real man to come into your life. One who will love you and be there for you, unlike this one.

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@LDR Nation: Much appreciated. I'm in the process of dealing and accepting that I need to move on. I'm keeping myself busy by going back to college, working and planning my new life path. I'm just going to shut for for a while. Thank you very much.

 

@Ellamay: I have never been in a relationship (I'm 29 year old). This is the first guy I fell in love with. I deleted him once from FB and could not deal with it, so I add him back. I know if I delete him again I will add him again. I guess part of me want him to delete me that way I won't have the face to re-add him again. For the time being, I'm just blocking him. I'm happy because I have not tried to contact or chat with him and it's helping me. Thank you very much for your time.

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@Ellamay: I have never been in a relationship (I'm 29 year old). This is the first guy I fell in love with. I deleted him once from FB and could not deal with it, so I add him back. I know if I delete him again I will add him again. I guess part of me want him to delete me that way I won't have the face to re-add him again. For the time being, I'm just blocking him. I'm happy because I have not tried to contact or chat with him and it's helping me. Thank you very much for your time.

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