celostina Posted April 23, 2012 Share Posted April 23, 2012 i have been with my boyfriend for 9 months we both have a child around the same age... ive been helping him thru his divorce hes been seperated for about 3 years already and hes just going thru the paperwork at court.. he works out of town and usually comes back every other weekend.. we speak on the phone everyday. but ive noticed some changes on the way he is with me.. i feel left out sometimes i feel like he doesnt give the attention i once had... i am a very jelous person and i am thinking the worst right about now.. i have a very good relationship with his family his mother and sister love me and there always inviting me over even when hes not there... i feel so comfortable with them that im always over chit chattin with them.. but just recently he started drinking a little more often and goes and has dinner with his "coworkers" and i just dont know what to think anymore he says hes faithful to me but im just afraid that all of what hes going thru with his divorce and stressful job it will all affect our relationship it seems to me that we fight more often because of the drinking and sometimes he doesnt answer his phone or will call all drunk Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted April 23, 2012 Share Posted April 23, 2012 With a divorce and a stressful job, it sounds like he's self-medicating with alcohol. If he is open to your making suggestions, I'd advise talking to him about seeing a therapist so that he can learn alternative coping strategies that are less destructive to his health. He has a lot on his plate right now, I don't think your demands for more attention are getting through to him. You may need to consider whether or not you can continue to be the supportive partner while he finalises his divorce and/or until his job eases up, or take a break (maybe even permanently) until his life gets back on track. Link to post Share on other sites
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