lovelyeyes12 Posted April 23, 2012 Share Posted April 23, 2012 My ex and I dated on & off for 5 yrs. Within the last 2 he and I started dating new people and we both have children now. So we both have moved on and started families but we still haven't gotten over one another and have been talking about going on a date secretly without anyone knowing. I feel bad but also feel like I really just want to sleep with him being he was the best iv hd in the bed hands down. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted April 23, 2012 Share Posted April 23, 2012 If you're having feelings like this then you need to leave your current partners before pursuing anything. Cheating will do nothing but lead to a world of pain for everyone involved. Kids grow up fine in multiple households but tend to resent it if the reason for divorce was because one of their parents whored around. I hate to be blunt here but you know what you are doing so much that you are reaching out. Either reach to your partner and go to therapy together to work on this or leave him now before causing him any extra unnecessary pain. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
jphcbpa Posted April 23, 2012 Share Posted April 23, 2012 this sounds like it is going to hurt 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovelyeyes12 Posted April 23, 2012 Author Share Posted April 23, 2012 Thank you for being blunt I really needed that because deep down I felt wrong and it is normally to sometimes still have feelings or attraction but that doesn't mean act on them. I appreciate it being a "whore" as you call it is not the character I want to reflect and being I have 2 daughters I surely want to be the best romodel for them. Link to post Share on other sites
Spark1111 Posted April 23, 2012 Share Posted April 23, 2012 Have you communicated to your current partner about how he can best fulfill your sexual needs? How he can become a better lover for you? Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted April 23, 2012 Share Posted April 23, 2012 Thank you for being blunt I really needed that because deep down I felt wrong and it is normally to sometimes still have feelings or attraction but that doesn't mean act on them. I appreciate it being a "whore" as you call it is not the character I want to reflect and being I have 2 daughters I surely want to be the best romodel for them. If you do not want to go ahead with this then you need to stop all contact with your ex and focus that attention on your marriage. Continuing contact with your ex will continue to lead you down that road. Cut the contact now before you do something you can never take back. Link to post Share on other sites
jphcbpa Posted April 23, 2012 Share Posted April 23, 2012 you are at a crossroads. please know that you are not choosing your ex or your H. you need to chose yourself and figure out what this void in you is all about. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Fitz Posted April 24, 2012 Share Posted April 24, 2012 I really just want to sleep with him being he was the best iv hd in the bed hands down. Why was your ex the best? Or is it that you are just longing forbidden fruit? And the memories are being sweetened by your desires? Link to post Share on other sites
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