Womens Slutty Phase

[Michael Johnson]

I've had 4 women in the 31 years I've been on this earth. Three relationship partners, my now wife being one of them, and my best friend's mother, who took my virginity.

 

I know my number is low, but what the heck.

[Imported]

It's hard to accept that a girl I am really interested in is/was a slut. Not something I really like thinking about. Also, I don't think they are bad people for being such, so long as they are honest about it if that is still their outlook on life. If they are over that, then cool. I don't really want to know about it and won't go snopping. So long as it doesn't smack me in the face, not a problem.

 

Let's say you, a guy, can have sex with lots of women. A different one every night if you wanted. Do you think you would be a slut if that were the case? Don't answer, you'll probably type out some puritan fantasy of the way you'd behave anyway.

 

I know many guys that are physically attractive and/or socially capable of pulling lots of women, do. Many guys that are not capable, especially the ones that are probably life long virgins and porn addicts talk **** about women that enjoy sex. If you were getting yours, you probably wouldn't worry about other people.

 

Seeing girls orgasm, it must feel so much more intense than my own. It'd be a wonder if most girls weren't slutty. Mostly all it takes to have sex with them, besides being attractive to them, is to give off the vibe that you don't think they're a slut and no one else needs to know about it.

[flyaway]

Nope, your number is perfect.

 

I do worry sometimes because my boyfriend was a virgin before he was with me so he's had 1 partner (me). He doesn't seem to care but I do hope it doesn't bother him that I've had a little more experience than he has. Usually it seems like it's the guy who has more. Not in our case.

[mason 25]

The problem starts after a woman has had lots of sexual partners theyre pu**y gets loose Equalling an unhappy bf.also sex means nothing anymore.

[mikomi513]

I'm gonna be honest. If I wasn't dating a great guy, I think I might try to get with every attractive person on my radar. I like touching people and I love reaction. The sounds really turn me on. It seems like you're concerned about when it stops. If a girl is ready for a committed relationship and loves the guy she's dating, she's not going to dump him just because she's in the "slutty" age group. I slutted out until I got sick of loveless relationships. There came a point when I realized I didn't like meaningless sex.

[mikomi513]

Why do you guys care? What is it that you want so desperately to know about our slutty phase? Caution about STDs is perfectly reasonable to me, but why do you need to know how many if you see a clean bill of health? Are you trying to gauge how loose your girl is? Are you going to make a judgement on her morals based on how many guys she has slept with? Maybe you want to know if she potentially has more experience than you and you're feeling insecure about your skill in the sac. You know what would be a constructive use of this worry? Ask her about the experiences themselves. Girls sometimes learn a lot about sex in their slutty phases. The more guys she has slept with, the better. She can tell you something absolutely awesome that one guy did one time, and instead of being jealous, you could give her the same pleasure.

[flyaway]

I disagree about the "the more guys she's slept with, the better." I've only had 3 partners (including current boyfriend) but I don't regret not having a slutty phase. You don't need to be a slut for a while to get good at sex or learn about it. I had all my sex within long term relationships and I had a LOT of it with those few people. You can learn a lot either having a LOT of sex with a couple people...or having some sex with a LOT of people.

 

I think many guys (and girls, like me) are concerned about "slutty phases" and wouldn't want to date someone who had one because we ourselves didn't have one and may worry that the person who has had one doesn't take sex as seriously. I have always taken sex seriously. I love it and it's fun, but I always believed that it belonged in long-term relationships. I have dated a couple other guys, but not long-term and definitely no sex.

 

I know that some people go through a phase screwing everyone in order to find out that sex is special, but some of us didn't have to do that. And there's nothing wrong with wanting a partner who is the same.

 

Also, if someone had a slutty phase, then they have no right to negatively judge someone who has also had one.

[Radu]

To add to what flyaway posted, i think to some degree everyone is a slut and you don't need to pump your number very much as the sole means to become a better slut.

 

My number is 4 (guy), and i think i am one hell of a slut ... i'm referring to quality because i treated it as a hobby at which i tried to get better and better.

 

You don't need to change partners to explore something new.

In fact for many things you need trust, the kind of trust you only have with someone you are in a LTR.

[flyaway]

I agree with you, Radu.

 

I took/take sex seriously and don't consider myself a slut, but I can see why you view yourself as being that way because of your attitude back then. I think that's what is key: the attitude.

 

You could have 50 partners and be a slut, or "only" have 4 partners and be a slut, because you just used them as "practice sex" and it didn't really mean anything to you. Not much difference in my mind.

 

You are definitely right on the trust issue. I have gotten to experience a lot sexually, esp with my current partner. We've done 15+ positions, plus other orifices, plus some "tying up" and very mild dominance. There is noooo way I could do that with someone I don't know well and don't trust as much.

[mason 25]

Theres definetly a difference in women that have had slutty phases they dont value sex. ive had a couple of ex/gfs who admitted to me they had a couple of slutty phases in they're lives. They weren't curious anymore about discovering and having a great experience they just wanted to C*M.Thats anoyying when you get with one of those they don't want to do anything new with theyre new parnter theyve don it all theyre not interested i think slutty phases makes women more numb to the whole experience.

[Radu]

I never used them as practice sex, i always tried to have a relationship with them.

It was mostly them that used me as practice sex and practice relationships.

 

I am referring to the fact that you can get better at sex in a commited serious LTR with just 1 person as opposed to 'sowing wild oats', by exploring fantasies, role playing, new sexual acts, hell my GF used to try to convince me that she has never seen porn in her life ... after a 2hs discussion she shows me this movie she has on her PC that was encrypted and contained a porn movie.

[Radu]

Theres definetly a difference in women that have had slutty phases they dont value sex. ive had a couple of ex/gfs who admitted to me they had a couple of slutty phases in they're lives. They weren't curious anymore about discovering and having a great experience they just wanted to C*M.Thats anoyying when you get with one of those they don't want to do anything new with theyre new parnter theyve don it all theyre not interested i think slutty phases makes women more numb to the whole experience.

 

 

I can see how they would get numb ... 'been there, done that', but every experience can be different with the change of a sexual partner.

The way i look at it, maybe you've done this and this and this with the ex's but have you done them with me ?

 

Well, if she mentions that she has done it with the ex's with this numbness you clearly should not bother with this girl.

[flyaway]

Oh okay Radu, I understand what you were saying. Didn't mean to put words in your mouth. I agree w/ you.

[TLY22]

I'm quite young myself (19), and I haven't had a slutty phase (I am in a no-strings-attached relationship at the moment, but there is an emotional connection). I actually really value sex; I see is at the most intimate thing that two people can do, and it should mean something, or at least be with someone who means something.

 

I don't know. Call me old-school, but that's just how I view it.

[adore.mii]

I think I might've missed out on the "slutty phase" because I was in a committed relationship and am still in one. I've only had 2 partners and I'm almost 24 (well, 2.5 because I tried to do it to one other guy, but his peen was too big and I don't even think the tip went in...so I don't count him lol)

 

I think that if this current relationship doesn't work out, then I'll enter said "slutty phase"! I might even try to get a sugar daddy and make some money.