If they say ''I cheated'' while drunk is that true?

[Feelsgoodman]

There's an old Dutch saying which, loosely translated, says that a word is not a canary...once it flies out, you can't catch it back. Regardless of whether she actually cheated, you will never have your piece of mind. Even if you choose to accept her explanation (which in my opinion is BS), you will always have doubts about her at the back of your mind.

[dasein]

This may be one of those rare times for an ultimatum. Either she discloses fully and exactly what she meant when she said "I cheated" or the wedding is off, with an understanding that the wedding may still be off anyway.

 

If the relationship is good otherwise, IMO it would be silly to break things off over something that could have been a single kiss or brief text flirtation. I think there was probably more than that there, but assuming so without knowing for sure is a bad idea. She could have totally exaggerated a relatively innocuous kind of "cheating" to get your goat during a fight.

[Radu]

alcohol = truth serum

 

She cheated, good thing you caught it early on. What you do with this information is entirely up to you, but i would try to test her actions first.

 

And even in the off chance she didn't cheat and just said to hurt you, she was way out of line, and this type of behaviour will only continue.

I would even go as far as to say she was emotionally abusive if this was said to hurt you.

[kaylan]

Dump the biznitch and find a better woman.

[Searchforthetruth]

Hey guys,

The update to this is we broke up. She still denied ever cheating and refused to take a lie detector test. I think that says it all I need to know.

Did this take place during an argument ? It's for sure that there are problems here, somewhere, but personally, I wouldn't take it at face value unless I had other suspicions.............

It sounded like she did mean it. Like another poster mentioned, out of all the others things that could have come out of her mouth, it had to be ''I cheated on you''.

When IS the wedding ? If it's next year, say, you have time to figure out the real deal.............

It was for next year but I'm now single.

[Searchforthetruth]

Dump the biznitch and find a better woman.

I broke if off but I'm planning to be single for a while. I don't find myself dating right away.

[Searchforthetruth]

If the relationship is good otherwise, IMO it would be silly to break things off over something that could have been a single kiss or brief text flirtation. I think there was probably more than that there, but assuming so without knowing for sure is a bad idea. She could have totally exaggerated a relatively innocuous kind of "cheating" to get your goat during a fight.

I doubt it was a single kiss. The way she said it that day sounded more like an full blown affair or ONS. Plus why would she refused to take a lie detector test. When I mentioned that she seemed somewhat nervous while still denying ever cheating.

[Searchforthetruth]

Hey Search! Did you break it off yet?

Yes I have.