Mr Scorpio Posted April 25, 2012 Share Posted April 25, 2012 What makes you happy? What brings you inner-peace? For the vast majority of my life, I've been either depressed or content. There have been moments of happiness, but they have been fleeting. For the past few weeks, it has been all depression and no contentment. Now that I have reached middle-age, I'm sick of being apathetic. I want to take appropriate steps to achieve what is most important in life -- happiness. The problem? Even if I am able to reach my goal of becoming financially stable, I'm not sure what it even is that would make me happy! Many of my happiest memories were formed with my ex. But towards the end of the relationship there were times when I felt isolated and bored with the routine of it all, and that was only a two-year relationship. That, combined with the breakup/divorce threads on this board make me wonder how much happiness can be derived long-term from a relationship with that "one special person". Yet, at the same time, without that one special person, with whom would I form memories worth thinking of while on my proverbial death bed? I'm training for a career that will allow me to help others, but also has one of the highest reported rates of unhappiness amongst practioners. So, I don't know how much I can derive happiness from my future career. So, to anyone out there who considers themselves happy on a regular basis, to what do you attribute your mood? Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted April 25, 2012 Share Posted April 25, 2012 Choose to be happy. That is, rather than strive for happiness. Just be it. Decide that you've been framing it all wrong (after all, perception is reality) and just be happy. It that's too simplistic for you and you're more mathematically-inclined: Happiness = P + (5xE) + (3xH) Here, P stands for personal characteristics, E for existence (health, financial stability and friendships) and H is higher order, and covers self-esteem, confidence, ambitions and sense of humor. BBC NEWS | Health | The formula for happiness Link to post Share on other sites
wwwjd Posted April 25, 2012 Share Posted April 25, 2012 ima tell you something the world does not want you to know: our modern world is designed around profiting on your unhappiness So, your are enslaved by that from birth. Taught that STUFF and MONEY that buys it makes you feel good, not HAPPY, just good. And only temporarily so you will need more. Contentment in every level possible ALLOWS happiness, but companies don't profit from contentment, so they don't market it. Many can say, "find your inner self peace" and whatnot, forgetting that the system is against that. You gotta derail THAT SYSTEM in you before you can really start finding stuff: Did you know that watching the "news" is not mandatory in life? But think about it: it is a consistant level of negativity shoved at you on TV, radio, newspaper, billboards, office gossip about people you don't even know, don't care about, are too far away from to even help if you wanted to, and generally on topics that are the most infuriating like rape, death, destruction instead of a kid earning money to put a sick puppy through college and such. The only important NEWS you want is about family and friends and guess where you hear that from? RIght! Family and friends circumventing all that NEWS MEDIA. But they want you watching the news so they can profit from your lifelong building fear and paranoia. So, the world is against your happiness because it is less profitable. Learn about contentment and off you go. Link to post Share on other sites
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