Joexfm Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 Hello I'm new here and I apologize in advance if my post is all over the place. I recently started seeing a girl who frequents being away at college and usually I will go weeks without seeing each other. At first it was tough but I got used to it. We always have a good time with each other. Lately though I have been kind of feeling that my original feelings weren't as strong as they were when we started dating and it got me worried and depressed that maybe I was losing interest in her. I still enjoy talking to her but I feel like I'm at a tug of war with my emotions. I don't know how I really feel about her now. Some days I'll miss her like crazy while other days I'll just feel indifferent and it really gets me down. She's coming home for the summer and it'll be my first time seeing her in over a few months and I'm kind of nervous for how things will be. What should I do about this? I feel like I've been over analyzing way too much about this when I shouldn't be.
HeavenOrHell Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 Hi, how long have you been seeing each other? Do you talk enough in between visits to keep your bond/love and interest in each other going? We don't ever really sustain the intense feelings we felt when the relationship was new, it does go into a another, deeper level after we've got to know each other and settle into more of a routine with each other, if that person is right for us and vice versa. If it doesn't go into that other level after the first 'flush of love' fades to some extent, then most r/ships will break up. How would you feel if she stopped all contact today? Hello I'm new here and I apologize in advance if my post is all over the place. I recently started seeing a girl who frequents being away at college and usually I will go weeks without seeing each other. At first it was tough but I got used to it. We always have a good time with each other. Lately though I have been kind of feeling that my original feelings weren't as strong as they were when we started dating and it got me worried and depressed that maybe I was losing interest in her. I still enjoy talking to her but I feel like I'm at a tug of war with my emotions. I don't know how I really feel about her now. Some days I'll miss her like crazy while other days I'll just feel indifferent and it really gets me down. She's coming home for the summer and it'll be my first time seeing her in over a few months and I'm kind of nervous for how things will be. What should I do about this? I feel like I've been over analyzing way too much about this when I shouldn't be.
Author Joexfm Posted April 26, 2012 Author Posted April 26, 2012 Hi, how long have you been seeing each other? Do you talk enough in between visits to keep your bond/love and interest in each other going? We don't ever really sustain the intense feelings we felt when the relationship was new, it does go into a another, deeper level after we've got to know each other and settle into more of a routine with each other, if that person is right for us and vice versa. If it doesn't go into that other level after the first 'flush of love' fades to some extent, then most r/ships will break up. How would you feel if she stopped all contact today? Since January we have been seeing each other. We talk almost every day. Lately it has not been much because of our busy schedules. Right now it's a little tougher because I won't see her for a while. If all contact were to stop I would feel pretty upset. Probably hurt and also lonely.
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