luvluv Posted June 21, 2004 Posted June 21, 2004 I have a problem--first, the background. I recently met a very handsome, educated, sensitive man online. We have been talking for a week now via email, and I really cannot help but to feel a growing affection for him. I met him through a forum that contained some postings I had written in the past. One such posting had a dialogue between me and another user concerning a moral question. The other user accused me of being "narrow-minded" in a private email, and, flustered, I posted a response that stated that I was educated and had a master's degree, when in truth, I have only a four-year degree. I have never lied about my credentials before, but was upset and threw this out there thinking it would give more weight to my argument. It was something like bluffing my way through a job interview and saying I had more experience than I actually did. Today my new online friend asked me about my master's degree--he read some of my old postings and saw this particular one. I was so terrified when I realised I had to tell him the truth--that I don't have my masters. I don't want anything to destroy what I have been buidling with this man...I have never lied about anything before...I just never do. Now I am so anxious over the fact that he shall think I am untrustworthy and regard me with suspicion. I sent him an email explaining the truth, and now I am waiting for a reply. My question is--did I ruin my chance to further a correspondence with this man? I have a hard time forgiving myself, and I think he will be disgusted with me and want quickly to end our communication. I feel so terribly about this, and I don't know what to do--I don't know what his response will be. I have always been a very moral, upright individual---I feel so awfully about this past blunder. Please help me to know what I should do, and what kind of answer I can expect from my friend.....
shamen Posted June 21, 2004 Posted June 21, 2004 Hopefully he can just get past this. It's not like you sent him an email directly re: this or anything. It was something that you posted. Hopefully we all tell the truth when we post things; but again, you didn't tell him that directly. I'd do just what you did: send him an email explaining the situation, that you feel horrible about it and that you never plan on doing posting untrue things again. Especially that you wouldn't lie to him directly. I think that you'll be OK! If he doesn't understand, well then, so it goes. I'm not trying to be mean, but you've got to think of it like this: It's great that you even put yourself out there and that you were willing to tell him the truth. I'm going to bet that you probably even forgot that you said this until he brought it up!
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