setsenia Posted April 26, 2012 Share Posted April 26, 2012 Don't get me wrong, it's not that I don't appreciate him wanting to have dinner for us. I know my husband would love for his parents to make an effort to see him more than a few times a year just for holidays. My dad hasn't always been a positive emotional influence. (He can't stop saying negative things about my mom, he's very focused on looks and only talks about his 10 dates each week). A week or two ago, he mentioned having soup/dinner day twice a week. I can probably bear once a week, but twice a week seems a bit much. (I work and go to school full time and live on my own). I'm thinking of telling him I appreciate the offer, but once a week would be more manageable. Also, the more I see him the more he starts acting parental. I honestly think only seeing one another every so often makes him treat me better and appreciate my visits. Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted April 27, 2012 Share Posted April 27, 2012 I honestly think only seeing one another every so often makes him treat me better and appreciate my visits. This has been my experience with family as well. It's worth remembering that you're an adult who lives on her own. You can choose who you spend time with. And in my opinion, one night a week for family that don't get on like a house on fire is more than adequate. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted April 27, 2012 Share Posted April 27, 2012 Just tell him you'd love to, but twice a month is all you can manage at this time. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author setsenia Posted April 27, 2012 Author Share Posted April 27, 2012 That sounds about my speed. LOL! Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted May 3, 2012 Share Posted May 3, 2012 I cab relate my dad is extremely negative person, so that really turns me off him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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