jerryinva Posted June 21, 2004 Share Posted June 21, 2004 Well...I get it now. She and I spent the afternoon together...but before I could leave her, her mood started to go downhill. Then she called me to come back out to her car from my house, so she could give me my birthday cards (I think she was trying to make me feel better.) When I called her back to thank her for the cards, we ended up on the "us" thing again. She swore on her life, and other family members, she does not love me in the way a wife should, and that she wants to be with him...he is safe, he doesn't argue with her, or hurt her feelings. So, we ended the conversation with her asking me to leave her alone...which I intend to do. I will NOT be calling her again. If she calls me, fine, if I am not busy, I will talk, but she made it clear she never wants to have the "us" conversation again. And, so we won't. Link to post Share on other sites
Blah Toolz Posted June 21, 2004 Share Posted June 21, 2004 Sorry it had to come to that, but it's good in a way, bro. Now you won't be chasing her and hanging on to that last shred of hope thinking that you'll get back together... because it's not going to happen. Move on, you'll find somewhere that will treat you better. Link to post Share on other sites
sportsloving Posted June 21, 2004 Share Posted June 21, 2004 I am sorry that it took that scene for you to see the reality and that you were hurt, but it does sound the best for all involved. I know you are still going to hold out some hope but please listen to what she said, and respect her wishes. I hope you are able to move on and find the one who love you as deeply as you love Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryinva Posted June 21, 2004 Author Share Posted June 21, 2004 I am not going to bring the issue up again. She called this morning on her way to work, to chat like she often does on her way to work... but I didn't answer... I let the machine get it. She is online now...but hasn't said a word to me... This is going to be hard... Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted June 21, 2004 Share Posted June 21, 2004 It's little habits... we are the prisoners of our little routine... You understood it, it's gonna take some time 'till you'll realise it. Do not contact her at all, in any way, never again. You'll hate it, but it will help on the long run! Link to post Share on other sites
brashgal Posted June 21, 2004 Share Posted June 21, 2004 Another suggestion, take her off your 'buddy list' or whatever you call it so you don't SEE if she's online - it's easier if you have no reminder that she's around. Link to post Share on other sites
estakado Posted June 21, 2004 Share Posted June 21, 2004 Everytime you even think about her, just remember the fact that she swore on everything not to be with you again. Give yourself time to heal and forgive yourself. Dont be sorry about this anymore and get rid of everything about her. She chose to move on and you should to, be positive, keep yourself busy and someone will come in your life very soon. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryinva Posted June 21, 2004 Author Share Posted June 21, 2004 How do you fight it when the woman sends you a message and asks you if you really love her...that she feels so alone sometimes...? Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted June 21, 2004 Share Posted June 21, 2004 I call it emotionally using you. Stop it! It's hard for you too, yet you're not calling her! It's tough 'cause you always feel alone because of her, and aren't looking for comfort from her! This is bad and you must reject it! Otherwise it will take you forever to move on and will hurt unnecessarily! Wh knows, maybe she'll even realise that's you the one she's alone because! Link to post Share on other sites
Blah Toolz Posted June 21, 2004 Share Posted June 21, 2004 Originally posted by jerryinva How do you fight it when the woman sends you a message and asks you if you really love her...that she feels so alone sometimes...? But she already said that she didn't want to be with you... so she is only saying this to see if she still has you wrapped around your finger. She is a cold-hearted bitch in my opinion... you're better off not talking to her. She's not the same person you once knew or loved... she's just using you now for her own personal ego boost. Link to post Share on other sites
estakado Posted June 21, 2004 Share Posted June 21, 2004 Dude, seriously cut this one free, and let it go. If she calls just ignore her and if she IM's or emails, then ignore that too. Ignore it to the point that she has to come after you face to face to contact you. And even if it gets to that point then ignore her too. Face it dude, she is getting married and she'll probably regret it but she had your chance with you and she has blown it! She is the one missing out not you! For reals get away now before it gets real ugly. Think about it if she really wants you, then what is stopping her? If she really loved you as much as you love her then she would drop everything to be with you. I'm with you man, I really am but you and I both know that if you swear on something then you mean it. Yeah you can still love her but you know that she aint coming back. Use that fact and start your life today. Link to post Share on other sites
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