From Mr. Nate to Mr. Great

[MrNate 2.0]

So after a few weeks of debate, I have decided to start up a thread to take me from where I am now..to realizing my potential.

 

First, I guess I can go into a little background about myself, so I guess I can look at this on paper as well.

 

I am currently 23 years old. Life has been interesting so far. I grew up with my mom raising me, and my bio father never wants to admit he had me. School was ok. I was a rather chubby kid, so I got picked on a lot for a long time. I was fortunate enough to thin out come around high school, but I guess I was never popular, though I did have friends. I had to help raise my brother and sister, and there is a strong disconnect with my mom to this day, but I don't really mind. It's hard for us to see eye to eye most times anyway.

 

I had a chance to go to college and had a great time, though finding direction with my life was a bit hard. Again, I never really had a huge social network or anything. I can admit I'd love to experience that sensation of my phone blowing up all the time, haha. I grew up in the bible belt (louisiana) so that came along with its own issues as well. However, I guess, at this point, a few things have started to change.

 

I began to want things. I started getting tired of always fantasizing about what it would be like to just be awesome. I've trimmed down and lost 40 lbs, (181 now) and I work out three times a week. I am now building skills that I can monetize, such as creating cool websites. I am pretty sociable and funy. I am also working on making more money, which will open up more avenues as well. So I am starting to build some momentum.

 

 

So with that said, I have decided to keep track of things I want, and my journey towards getting them. If I were honest with myself, I know at my core I know I want to be:

 

• A ladies man (just very good with women)
  
• Moderately wealthy
  
• Better dressed
  
• Having fun
  
• Move to Florida
  
• Have a larger social network
  
• Live a fairly healthy lifestyle
  

 

 

One good strength I have enjoyed is admitting that I want certain things and not lying to myself. So with that said, I will be monitoring my progress in this thread. I will be making little assignments for myself to do to work towards these things. I will take action towards my goal each day, whter it's reading a productive book or working on my business. Of course, you're invited to participate as well and start your own if you like.

 

 

 

I know I have potential, so I guess it's about time I started believing it.

 

 

I'm done dreaming and fantasizing. And I take responsibility for myself. It's time to make this a reality.

Edited April 29, 2012 by MrNate 2.0

[OhHey]

Cool.

 

Reminds me of when I was 22 and tired of dreaming... Low and behold I got my Private pilot license the next year got many many hours in 172's, J-5 and 150's....then.....pish....back to moping on the couch.

 

Never set foot in a plane again.....what a waste of 23,000 dollars:eek:

 

 

Yes man....cut the buul**** and make it happen....it takes work....just gotta keep believing and climbing.... Don't become 37 and still be dreaming like mwaaaaa..

 

Do it man....I also recommend less LS time....to easy to procrastinate

[DarkPrince]

If you stick with it, despite any obstacles, which you will have many, you will accomplish everything you want.

[MrNate 2.0]

Today was a very laid back day.

 

It was a short work day, and since I don't work with many people, I decided to go out to the store to just have a few interactions.

 

My body language isn't the best, it's from habits I've had since middle school. So I want to start killing some of these habits I've had for so long. I decided to spend the day working on some basic things as better eye contact and body language. I also made a goal of making sure to say hey to at least three people today, while making short eye contact.

 

I must say all of the interactions went well, so it was a win for this assignment. The next goal will be to just do 5 hi's while working on keeping great posture and good eye contact, in addition to opening a conversation if the opportunity presents itself. I figure this would be great as I typically tend to say hello then go right about my business.

 

I will also have a daily goal to myself to do something that I normally wouldn't do, just to see what kind of things that opens up as well.

[PlumPrincess]

You're just 23?? I thought you were some older dude in his forties.

[MrNate 2.0]

You're just 23?? I thought you were some older dude in his forties.

 

haha, I guess it's time for a full disclosure.

 

I am actually 23. I was 41 and 36 for a little while. I might go back to it later.

 

 

I have an old soul, girl.

[PlumPrincess]

haha, I guess it's time for a full disclosure.

 

I am actually 23. I was 41 and 36 for a little while. I might go back to it later.

 

 

I have an old soul, girl.

You fooled me, kiddie.

[ThaWholigan]

Hah, I knew you were an old soul

 

Body language can be helped by working out and improving form, as well as things like alexander technique, yoga and martial arts (have yet to try them, but I'm going to). Acting and Improv use exercises that improve body language too.

 

There are torrents you can download that contain gigabytes worth of information like this. There's a conditioning expert called Rob Brinded who has a couple of programs, if you can afford his programs. I have one of his e-books and it's very interesting. Stretches can help getting your body language to be more fluid and easy, as well as upright and more attractive.

[Pacman]

WHEN you find the secret to being a ladies man please let me know

 

I would love to be one as well

[Mme. Chaucer]

I too thought you were much older. You're kind of crotchety for a young whippersnapper, don't you think?

 

Way to go on the self improvement journey. Now that you've started this thread about it, you do know that you're 100% accountable to all of us from here on out, right?

[MrNate 2.0]

I too thought you were much older. You're kind of crotchety for a young whippersnapper, don't you think?

 

Way to go on the self improvement journey. Now that you've started this thread about it, you do know that you're 100% accountable to all of us from here on out, right?

 

Crotchety? I don't even know what that means:laugh:

 

But I can be pretty direct at getting the point across. (Like that ninjapajamas guy) It's the businessman side of me, heh. But I'm also very silly most of the time.

 

And as far as the accountability goes...but of course. I will keep this updated as much as possible.

[MrNate 2.0]

WHEN you find the secret to being a ladies man please let me know

 

I would love to be one as well

 

Lol well I'm definitely no pretty boy. My face closely resembles an upside down ass. So this shall come with hard work, dedication, and my wonderful gift with words.

[MrNate 2.0]

Today went pretty well!

 

Performed all 5 hi's, and more importantly, did my best to establish the eye contact. Normally, I would just do quick glances and go about my business, but I made sure to at least look at them a couple seconds or so. it was weird but, I kind of felt like I connected with people just a bit more.

 

I have to admit, it was a bit uncomfortable, but that means it's leading towards progress.

 

The conversations went pretty well. I also got to meet another person who does what I do. We just ranted on a bit about work, which was pretty funny. Then instead of going on about my business, I decided to do something I don't do too often: I asked her name, and introduced myself. It was a bit of a rush again, haha

 

As far as the rest of the day, I will proceed to work on a couple articles to post on my niche sites that work to make me money as an affiliate.

 

I will also complete chapter one of 'think and grow rich', as well as read a few pages of a book about becoming an awesome man.

 

It's always uncomfortable trying to break out of habits, but growth doesn't happen unless you do so. That much I'm certain about. So tomorrow, I will place a similar goal once again, and to make five the minimum.

 

 

Progress.

[MrNate 2.0]

Well jeez, we've been getting a lot of rain out here.

 

My progress is continuing. The eye contact is getting much better. While it is still a bit uncomfortable I know it has to be done. I will continue this again tomorrow. Once I can knock some of these habits out, I will then proceed to work on relating to people better while maintaining this eye contact. I believe the goal here is to work on carrying conversations, while making sure I maintain that open, engaging body language.

 

It will be quite a challenge, but it's one I accept.

 

My business sites have been doing well. They're starting to gain a bit more traffic and impressions! I will also be finalizing another site for a client. If I get good enough at this, I may look into building sites for others and selling them off at a certain fee.

 

My reading of 'Think and Grow Rich' is quite exciting. I really like how it's talking about just how strong the power of desire can be. I also like how it mentions of a secret that lies in the book to all the riches you can ever hope for. However, one thing it is slowly teaching me is that when your desire for what you want is strong enough, you will almost inevitably achieve what you want. So if I can continue to intensely focus on my desires, I know delaying gratification will be no problem. After all, there is no such thing as something for nothing.

 

 

Progress.

[MrNate 2.0]

Lately it seems things have just kind of been at a stand still. Mostly because I just don't know what to prioritize or try and make better first. I feel I have so much energy to try and improve things but I just don't know where to start. I know one of the biggest things I'd love to do is make more money so I can really go and do things, but, as all challenges, this has a couple obstacles as well.

 

This has actually be bothering me for some time. Because I'd hate to focus on one thing for so long to the point I neglect the others. I feel like I'm getting nowhere. What are some good ideas that can kind of help kick things into gear?

 

I hate being scattered this much.