Boomer11 Posted June 21, 2004 Share Posted June 21, 2004 Ok this is the 2nd time i am writing this post. I was half way through writing this post and i hit some button by mistake and it just diappeared. I would like to recieve some advice about this "friend" i have... I met this girl at a friend's party last year. I had seen her before, but knew her only by name, as you pretty much know every1 from your school when you live in a small town. Anyway, we started hanging out with our mutual friends, and then after awhile when we were more comfortable with eachother started hanging out more with it just being the 2 of us, and eventually began going out. This girl was perfect, and to this day still is in my eyes. I fell very hard for this girl. I had and still have feelings for her that i have never had for a girl b4. i would do anything for her still to this day... Well as you can probably tell we did end up breaking up after going out for a few months. The break up definately hurt me, as it was not at all my choice, although i will admitt it was my fault (if you wanna know the story behind it ill tell you). Anyway at first i totally ignored her, thinking that would be the best way for me to get over her...That lasted for a few weeks, but we talked and admitted that we both missed eachother's company. She made it very clear that she only wanted to be friends, and although this is not what i wanted, i told her i would rather haver her as just a friend than not in my life at all. so we have been hanging out for a few months now as "just friends". Recently it seems we have getting closer, we practically act like we are still together at times and then other times she sends me off a totally different vibe. well about two weeks ago we were cuddling, as we do often(i dunno how many of you do that with you friends, but i usually do not) and then when i went to leave we ended up kissing. The next few days we were very affectionate towards eachother (more than usual). Then the 1 night i was talking to her bestfriend, whoe said that she had admitted to her that she still had feelings for me but wasnt sure if she wanted anything to come of it because i will be leaving for college ( i just graduated from highschool and she is going to be a junior in highschool). She said she told her that she would be heartbroken if i met another girl in college. There is more to the story but i think i've went on long enough. Basically i really care about this girl a lot and just last night she pretty much said we are just friends. She sends me so many mixed signals its crazy, and im just really totally confused by the whole situation... If any1 has any adivce, it's greatly appreciated Sorry for the long post... Link to post Share on other sites
princess rose Posted June 21, 2004 Share Posted June 21, 2004 Hey Bommer, have you tried just asking her how she feels, to clarify her mixed signals once and for all, so you'll know whether to move on or try again? Link to post Share on other sites
Fayebelle Posted June 21, 2004 Share Posted June 21, 2004 She seems like she has always been honest w/ you about her feelings before- when she was ready to break up she told you- she missed you and wanted to be friends she told you- chances are if she wants to take it to the next level again..she'll tell you. Would you be cool w/ remaining just friends if that's what she wants? Either way I think you are doing the right thing by allowing her to set the pace- She may be testing the water to decide what she wants. Give her some time and if you're still confused-Ask her. It's the only way you'll know for sure. Link to post Share on other sites
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