Affair revealed by 13 year old boy!!?

[stillafool]

When did you end the affair?

[Bellechica]

I'm not buying this thread either. It screams: see Bella, your next!

 

Sorry for the t/j but I am doing better since my thread was closed. It certainly was no ego boost for me. Just the opposite, it was messing me up and making me sick. I came to LS to move past an A and to find support for staying on the right track and never repeating my choices. The thread was getting way too personal.

 

I am not back in the A. I'm stronger and more stable.

 

I didn't come to LS to be cajoled into confessing. I know my family and background better than anyone, and I know that confessing and discovery will both result in D.

 

Affair, if all of this has truly happened to you then I wish you the best for you and your family. Be strong......

[Affair]

Whether you D or not, Affair, you still have to build some sort of R with your H. After all, you will have shared custody. So there's no getting round this. You will have to face the consequences by first reaching out to your H and apologizing. You need to hear him out. Let him rant and rave because that way you will hear what his feelings are. What about it bothers him the most? That you lied for 3 years? That you had an A with...does he know the OM? That others knew about it and he didn't? That he wasn't happy either but chose to stay faithful? It could be all or a few of the above....or something else. You need to get him talking to you face to face.

 

First off, don't call the house, it's your home too. Go see your kids.

 

I'm gonna follow this.

 

What's keeping you from fixing your flaw anyway?

Nothing I was just saying that we would have more sex and i wouldn't hold back. We wouldn't be together if he doesn't take me back therefor I can't fix it unless he takes me back.

 

Well this is my last post for now. He picked up. He sent the kids to his parents house. I'm gonna visit when he gets home from work so we can talk.

Wish me luck, I'll need it.

[Affair]

When did you end the affair?

 

I think it was just the thrill of being with another womans man. I'm stupid.

[Affair]

I'm not buying this thread either. It screams: see Bella, your next!

 

Sorry for the t/j but I am doing better since my thread was closed. It certainly was no ego boost for me. Just the opposite, it was messing me up and making me sick. I came to LS to move past an A and to find support for staying on the right track and never repeating my choices. The thread was getting way too personal.

 

I am not back in the A. I'm stronger and more stable.

 

I didn't come to LS to be cajoled into confessing. I know my family and background better than anyone, and I know that confessing and discovery will both result in D.

 

Affair, if all of this has truly happened to you then I wish you the best for you and your family. Be strong......

This thread was in no way for you to see. I just found this forum today. I'm glad you're doing better and i hope for your sake he doesn't find out. It's nice to see someone in a similar situation.

 

 

Bye for now guys.

[Wanderer25]

I'm not buying this thread either. It screams: see Bella, your next!

 

You think too much of yourself Take care Bella

[bentnotbroken]

Is there a way I could help him get past that image when he decides to talk to me?

 

 

No................

[Artie Lang]

i agree, Belle. this sounds made up.

 

it doesn't negate the fact that you must eventually face your demons at some point, though.

[samsungxoxo]

I'm a little bothered that the OP would call the 13 year-old boy a brat (maybe it's because I have an almost 10 year-old brother and he too is always brutally honest when he doesn't like something because kids will be kids). He's just a hurt child that is rightfully angry. I'm not even sure if she is really regretting this or just if this is just a ''Sorry I got found out, what to do now, I need this solve fast, I want it back to normal again, stupid kid'' story.

 

I don't really see any type of actual remorse (or little), esp. when she posted about if it would be better a divorce and having a stepmom for the kids. My mother would have a heart attack if she didn't see my brother for one day. Here is it:

I think it might be better if we just divorced and he finds our kids a step-mom and I just see them on weekends.

 

It won't really get back to normal ever again and the OP will just have to be very patience if her husband takes her back.

Edited April 30, 2012 by samsungxoxo

[ISurvived]

I'm not buying this thread either. It screams: see Bella, your next!

 

Sorry for the t/j but I am doing better since my thread was closed. It certainly was no ego boost for me. Just the opposite, it was messing me up and making me sick. I came to LS to move past an A and to find support for staying on the right track and never repeating my choices. The thread was getting way too personal.

 

I am not back in the A. I'm stronger and more stable.

 

I didn't come to LS to be cajoled into confessing. I know my family and background better than anyone, and I know that confessing and discovery will both result in D.

 

Affair, if all of this has truly happened to you then I wish you the best for you and your family. Be strong......

 

Well, if honesty causes you problems Bella, you should have thought about that prior to having TWO affairs.

 

I think you know how to manipulate your family better than anyone.

 

Sorry for the partial t/j Affair.

[Ninja'sHusband]

Like I've said earlier. It wasn't a bargain or offer. I was simply saying that was something that would change. I broke contact with the other man except for the occasional "how's everything going?" I do not flirt or even think about cheating again.

Also by sparing the details i meant, I didn't turn it into kidd's wife's post. I told the full truth and answered all of his questions truthfully, I did lie to him for 3 years and make him live a lie. I realize that was wrong.

Wow for a newb you sure have learned a lot about people here...

[ISurvived]

Wow for a newb you sure have learned a lot about people here...

 

Maybe Affair is someone else that's been here awhile? Just sayin............

[Bellechica]

Yes, NH.....it seems so.

 

Affair, I'm curious? How long was your A? How is it you've maintained contact and friendship with the OM? Hmmmmm

 

I believe I have finally learned that that isn't possible.

[Furious]

There is something wonky about this thread.

[stillafool]

The thread was getting way too personal.

 

Yeah, when the truth that both of your affairs were with black guys you didn't want to participate anymore. I understand.

 

 

 

I didn't come to LS to be cajoled into confessing. I know my family and

background better than anyone, and I know that confessing and discovery will

both result in D.

 

No Bella, when you are discovered and you will be, that could end in divorce but keep lying to yourself if it makes you feel better.

[stillafool]

I think it was just the thrill of being with another womans man. I'm stupid.

 

No OP I asked when did you end the affair?

 

I don't understand how it was a thrill for you to hurt someone else but to each his own.

[standtall]

I think it was just the thrill of being with another womans man. I'm stupid.

 

She asked you why you ended it, not why you were in it. This is an odd thread.

[Steen719]

My God, that poor 13 year old boy. It is sad that he knows such disappointment, hate and rage at a tender age. He and his mother live in the projects? Wow, what a piece of crap her XH is.

 

Affair, I think you are right about your apologies. You need to concentrate on finding compassion in your heart and then apologizing to the mother and son for your part in the dissolution of their family. Once you can find empathy for them, maybe you can know in your heart how to make your marriage viable again.

[The Blue Knight]

There is something wonky about this thread.

I've been saying that since it was first posted. Nothing has added up or made any sense.

[BetrayedH]

Wow for a newb you sure have learned a lot about people here...

 

Particularly when you kinda have to search for the one time I referenced how to find the blog post.

 

Have to admit...I was starting to feel kinda famous. Although I think Nickster still takes the cuckold of the year award by a landslide (but he was probably just a troll).

[Steen719]

particularly when you kinda have to search for the one time i referenced how to find the blog post.

 

Have to admit...i was starting to feel kinda famous. Although i think nickster still takes the cuckold of the year award by a landslide (but he was probably just a troll).

 

you are not a cuckold...stop saying that!!! She is the bad one.

 

bad, bad

[Bellechica]

Oh Kidd! You are an inspiration! It's amazIng you have a sense of humor

[Affair]

Wow for a newb you sure have learned a lot about people here...

 

I was skimming around for a while.

[Affair]

She asked you why you ended it, not why you were in it. This is an odd thread.

 

Yes, but the affair was found out on his end. So I didn't have that thrill.

[Affair]

I talked to my H today. He seemed bothered that I hid it from him and there was some yelling. He says he might work on it for the sake of the kids, I just have to give him access to my txts email call history and everything else whenever he wants. Which I'll be doing. And to those who don't believe this is real, I understand but could you please not crowd up this thread?

 

Thanks for the help guys.