Author Affair Posted May 1, 2012 Author Share Posted May 1, 2012 Why do you not feel guilty? How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot? If you don't want to be married, then get a D. If you do want to be married to your BH, you really need to understand why you have no guilt or remorse. Are you really just selfish, cold, and could care less about your BH and children? Also, why do you feel the need to still be in contact with the OM? I don't want a divorce! I love my kids and my husband! I just don't feel that remorseful! I don't know why. I am really selfish, but i do care about my family! I kept contact to see how everything was going once in awhile, but I'm gonna follow another person's advice and break contact. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Affair Posted May 1, 2012 Author Share Posted May 1, 2012 Really? He's a wonderful man? So when you were on top of the other man you never ever thought "wow, this is wrong, my husband and kids are at home and here I am banging this other married man?" That never crossed your mind? You never wondered why you drove a bus over your family for this dude? I would suggest some therapy to help you figure out why you could and would betray your family like that. Otherwise you are missing a big piece of the puzzle. Good luck. It crossed my mind a couple times, but i thought what they don't know won't hurt them. Well I guess I could go to therapy, how much does that cost? Link to post Share on other sites
Lois Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 Sorry, but this entire story smells awfully bad. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SomedayDig Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 Pure ignorance on display Affair. "What's remorse supposed to feel like?" Troll. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Affair Posted May 1, 2012 Author Share Posted May 1, 2012 Pure ignorance on display Affair. "What's remorse supposed to feel like?" Troll. I know I'm a bad person, but name calling? Link to post Share on other sites
YellowShark Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 It crossed my mind a couple times, but i thought what they don't know won't hurt them. Well I guess I could go to therapy, how much does that cost? Cost? So what is the price you put on your husband and kids? Cost isn't even on the radar my dear. You need to move mountains to figure out why you could betray the people closest to you -(your husband and children)- for sex with another man. Without that answer you are DOA. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Affair Posted May 1, 2012 Author Share Posted May 1, 2012 Cost? So what is the price you put on your husband and kids? Cost isn't even on the radar my dear. You need to move mountains to figure out why you could betray the people closest to you -(your husband and children)- for sex with another man. Without that answer you are DOA. Well I didn't want to go to therapy if I'm not even sure if we're staying together. Also I've cheated in past relationships if that helps at all. It could just be a tendency. I guess I could contact a local therapist and see how much it costs. Link to post Share on other sites
YellowShark Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 Well I didn't want to go to therapy if I'm not even sure if we're staying together. Also I've cheated in past relationships if that helps at all. It could just be a tendency. I guess I could contact a local therapist and see how much it costs. That would be wise. You really need to figure out why you cheat. In this relationship and the ones previous to it. You're a serial cheater. Now you have to figure out why you are. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Affair Posted May 1, 2012 Author Share Posted May 1, 2012 That would be wise. You really need to figure out why you cheat. In this relationship and the ones previous to it. You're a serial cheater. Now you have to figure out why you are. Alright I did some searching and found a therapist for 150$ for an hour. I guess that'll be enough time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Affair Posted May 1, 2012 Author Share Posted May 1, 2012 ^That was quick. That's why i love Google. I'll update you guys later, thanks for all the help. Link to post Share on other sites
SomedayDig Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 Don't know as if I've EVER seen a therapist advertise price online. Horrible troll. Just horribad. Link to post Share on other sites
BetrayedH Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 Alright I did some searching and found a therapist for 150$ for an hour. I guess that'll be enough time. An hour should cut it. We'll have this wrapped up by dinner. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Spark1111 Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 An hour should cut it. We'll have this wrapped up by dinner. Of course! It WILL be everyone else's fault. Link to post Share on other sites
BetrayedH Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 Of course! It WILL be everyone else's fault. And she would have gotten away with it, too, if it weren't for those meddling kids. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 It crossed my mind a couple times, but i thought what they don't know won't hurt them. Well I guess I could go to therapy, how much does that cost? Don't go to therapy on our account. If you don't feel guilt or remorse why waste the money? What exactly do you want from the good people here at LS? Link to post Share on other sites
ISurvived Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 I don't want a divorce! I love my kids and my husband! I just don't feel that remorseful! I don't know why. I am really selfish, but i do care about my family! I kept contact to see how everything was going once in awhile, but I'm gonna follow another person's advice and break contact. That was my advice. Time to put your family first. I have my theories on why you have no remorse, but unless asked, I will keep those to myself. Link to post Share on other sites
ISurvived Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 And she would have gotten away with it, too, if it weren't for those meddling kids. This seems like a bad Scooby Doo episode!! Link to post Share on other sites
96nole Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 Yahh I saw last thread so i looked at the end of it and it was something like naughtywives.com so i went there and searched latin lover. I feel kinda bad for that Kidd guy. It was a nasty story. Not to T/J. But I went there and didn't find the story about Kidd. Does anyone know the link or want to give me a "Cliff's Notes" version. You can PM me so we don't completely jack this thread. Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 This seems like a bad Scooby Doo episode!!Yeah I used to watch both the Scooby Doo series and A pup named Scooby Doo as a kid. Once in a while I still listened to the theme song on youtube. Guess I'll never get rid of my childhood likes. Wow... regarding the OP's updates. I hope her husband never finds loveshack.org by accident and goes towards the infidelity section. I guess it's good the OP is being honest when writing to us about not really having remorse for the affair. I suspected that since the start of her thread. I don't know what's the point of paying for a therapist or taking marriage counseling sessions if the main ingredient, which is remorse is lacking. I guess what the OP meant is she feels no remorse for having the affair with the OM because she enjoyed in that moment (since it is obviously planned and well thought-out) but feels kinda bad for it hurting her husband. Result: It's not going to work out and they'll likely end in divorce. Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 If you have cheated on every other relationship then what you have is a total broken moral compass. Your lack of empathy toward your husband is chilling. You are not a fully developed person. How do you think you would be feeling if your husband had done to you what you have done to him? Engaging in behavior that brings hurt and pain to people that love you on the grounds of what they don't know won't hurt them shows truly what a broken human being you are. From what you have written I do not think you have the capacity to truly love another person aside from yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 What she wrote would be now fall into the category of a narcistic people, which is a personality disorder. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Affair Posted May 1, 2012 Author Share Posted May 1, 2012 I have my theories on why you have no remorse, but unless asked, I will keep those to myself. What's your theory? Not to T/J. But I went there and didn't find the story about Kidd. Does anyone know the link or want to give me a "Cliff's Notes" version. You can PM me so we don't completely jack this thread. Sorry I put up the wrong link. The basics is that she and the OM did some nasty stuff with kids at home and put the nasty story on the internet with some hurtful details. Don't go to therapy on our account. If you don't feel guilt or remorse why waste the money? What exactly do you want from the good people here at LS? Just advice on what to do. Seeing as most of the people here have lived through affairs I figured they would know best. As I sure don't. What she wrote would be now fall into the category of a narcistic people, which is a personality disorder. Is there a fix for this personality disorder? How do you think you would be feeling if your husband had done to you what you have done to him? I would be sad I guess. But seeing as how I've never been cheated on, I can't really imagine what it's like. However you guys have given me a good grasp. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 Just advice on what to do. Seeing as most of the people here have lived through affairs I figured they would know best. As I sure don't. What to do about what???? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Affair Posted May 1, 2012 Author Share Posted May 1, 2012 And she would have gotten away with it, too, if it weren't for those meddling kids. This lightened my mood a little bit. Link to post Share on other sites
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