Author hurts_so_bad Posted May 11, 2012 Author Share Posted May 11, 2012 Not that I'm the least bit surprised.....she wants to be heard...you want to be acknowledged...she wants to be acknowledged...you want to be heard....tit for tat. What are you trying to say? Im a stupppid or somtin? lol.....I got ya now! Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts_so_bad Posted May 11, 2012 Author Share Posted May 11, 2012 So if thats the case you are saying you think she still cares? right or wrong? If so why not just say so instead of turning me down all the time and tellig e things like, I dont want to hurt you, Im nnot in love with you, etc... Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted May 11, 2012 Share Posted May 11, 2012 So if thats the case you are saying you think she still cares? right or wrong? If so why not just say so instead of turning me down all the time and tellig e things like, I dont want to hurt you, Im nnot in love with you, etc... Stop questioning every little thing. Start living your life as if she doesn't care to R. She's given you plenty of cues to understand she's moving forward on her own but needs your money to survive. Take it as it is. Look out for you and your kids. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts_so_bad Posted May 11, 2012 Author Share Posted May 11, 2012 Stop questioning every little thing. Start living your life as if she doesn't care to R. She's given you plenty of cues to understand she's moving forward on her own but needs your money to survive. Take it as it is. Look out for you and your kids. Hey Sunny You were the one in the last thread that said..She is tired of my s**t...She needs time to trust you..She waited for you now you can wait for her.....Give her time and space. I think it was like page 38 of that huge thread! Why the sudden change of heart? I am moving on, I actually feel pretty good tonight as if nothing matters..Hope I can stay feeling this way! Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts_so_bad Posted May 11, 2012 Author Share Posted May 11, 2012 If that is the case that she is moving on by herself why couldnt she atleast give a call or text that the dog died? That to me is ridiculous! Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted May 11, 2012 Share Posted May 11, 2012 If that is the case that she is moving on by herself why couldnt she atleast give a call or text that the dog died? That to me is ridiculous! Because she's mean. And that's the reason for my change of heart... Coupled with moving your things out of the closet - she's moving forward - best you do too. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
coopster Posted May 11, 2012 Share Posted May 11, 2012 I agree, do you want to mock this forum again? Contributions are appreciated. trippi ...define this please? Link to post Share on other sites
coopster Posted May 11, 2012 Share Posted May 11, 2012 I agree, do you want to mock this forum again? Contributions are appreciated. gonna just reply before this get replied too Link to post Share on other sites
coopster Posted May 11, 2012 Share Posted May 11, 2012 hurts...i`m not going to apologise for anything i`ve put in your thread... i still stand by what i`ve said to you. Maybe in a way, I`ve said it it in the wrong way. But then again...maybe i haven`t. In an open forum no-one is right..no-one is wrong?? You know what ? ...i see a LOT of me in YOU. I`m on your side no matter how negative i come across sometimes, .. i really hope your ok... and ...I, still believe you can save your marriage best wishes to you Link to post Share on other sites
coopster Posted May 11, 2012 Share Posted May 11, 2012 If that is the case that she is moving on by herself why couldnt she atleast give a call or text that the dog died? That to me is ridiculous! so i didn`t miss much?? So...you still haven`t moved on??? I`m not giving up on you hurts. You may not like what i got to say... But even `lost` and `surfer` listened and more importantly `heard` in the end/. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts_so_bad Posted May 11, 2012 Author Share Posted May 11, 2012 so i didn`t miss much?? So...you still haven`t moved on??? I`m not giving up on you hurts. You may not like what i got to say... But even `lost` and `surfer` listened and more importantly `heard` in the end/. I hear ya coops and I appreciate what you are saying. I am trying to move on believe me! Guess I just have too much time on my hands to think! I was laid off but starting monday I am going back to work. So I will have work, the Gym, and AA to keep me occupied.....I havent moved on but she doesnt know that. I havent contacted her at all since last week. I didnt even call to contact her. I called for my girls but she picked up and we talked. Not about anything but the kids Link to post Share on other sites
coopster Posted May 11, 2012 Share Posted May 11, 2012 I hear ya coops and I appreciate what you are saying. I am trying to move on believe me! Guess I just have too much time on my hands to think! I was laid off but starting monday I am going back to work. So I will have work, the Gym, and AA to keep me occupied.....I havent moved on but she doesnt know that. I havent contacted her at all since last week. I didnt even call to contact her. I called for my girls but she picked up and we talked. Not about anything but the kids How are the kids??? Link to post Share on other sites
coopster Posted May 11, 2012 Share Posted May 11, 2012 I hear ya coops and I appreciate what you are saying. I am trying to move on believe me! Guess I just have too much time on my hands to think! I was laid off but starting monday I am going back to work. So I will have work, the Gym, and AA to keep me occupied.....I havent moved on but she doesnt know that. I havent contacted her at all since last week. I didnt even call to contact her. I called for my girls but she picked up and we talked. Not about anything but the kids laid off? how come? thought you were self employed?? Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts_so_bad Posted May 11, 2012 Author Share Posted May 11, 2012 How are the kids??? Kids are good, took them to dinner on Tuesday then left before the wife got home. No not self empoyed. I am a union electrician in NYC. Sometimes things get slow and we are out for a few months....But with unempoyment and union benefits we do just as good staying home as we do working. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts_so_bad Posted May 12, 2012 Author Share Posted May 12, 2012 Hey guys! Was just thinking if I should send her flowers for mothers day or not? I know I was a big screw up in the past and maybe flowers would show I am doing the right thing. After all she stil is the mother to my children... I was thinking of just putting "To the mother of my Children Happy Mothers day" on the card but dont want to send them if you guys think it will be taken the wrong way.... Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted May 12, 2012 Share Posted May 12, 2012 I'd suggest IF you send them to put your kids names on the card. She's not your Mother. I like the thought - but it really is a day for Moms and their kids. I've already bought something that my boys can give to their Dad on Fathers day. You could call the kids - they can get her something they prefer if you go to the bank and put money in their account. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts_so_bad Posted May 13, 2012 Author Share Posted May 13, 2012 I decided against the flowers as she is coming into the city to see her mom and mine with the kids so she may not be there to get them. I know because she called me a little while ago..She said she tried to call me the other day about the dog but it went straight to voice mail and she didnt want to leave that message. We both spoke nice to eachother, no arguing. I dont know, I think she may have just lost that loving feeling! Its killing me but I think that might be the case. I know she is still on the match.com site ad stuff so I dont know what to think anymore... If the love is lost can it ever come back? I know, I know, take care of me and only me! I am....Just hard when you have sooo much time on your hands not to think! Link to post Share on other sites
NXS Posted May 13, 2012 Share Posted May 13, 2012 I dont know, I think she may have just lost that loving feeling! Its killing me but I think that might be the case. I know she is still on the match.com site ad stuff so I dont know what to think anymore... If the love is lost can it ever come back? Hi HSB, didn't know you'd started a new thread and I haven't been on LS in a while. If she has lost that loving feeling are you prepared to deal with it? Can you face that cold, hard, smack of reality? Are you willing to want to let her go? Glad to hear you're still off the drink and keeping it together even if it may not seem like that's what you're doing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts_so_bad Posted May 13, 2012 Author Share Posted May 13, 2012 (edited) Hi HSB, didn't know you'd started a new thread and I haven't been on LS in a while. If she has lost that loving feeling are you prepared to deal with it? Can you face that cold, hard, smack of reality? Are you willing to want to let her go? Glad to hear you're still off the drink and keeping it together even if it may not seem like that's what you're doing. Hey NXS glad your here! The Answer to your question right now is NO.. I am not..If I was, I probably wouldnt care and would stop posting my sad sob stories on here..You probably know that already though! Im hoping as time goes on if we dont work out it will be easier.. With not concentrating on another women to ease my pain kind of makes it harder to deal with right now.... I am not a very positive person by nature. Not saying its the right way to be but, I prefer in a way to look at the glass half empty. This way if things dont go my way I am not surprised. Reason I say this is thats pretty much how I have been thinking of this seperation. I do have my hopes but all in all in my head I am afraid its over..Even so I am still going to do what I can to make it work if I can by being a better man. Edited May 13, 2012 by hurts_so_bad Link to post Share on other sites
NXS Posted May 13, 2012 Share Posted May 13, 2012 Hey NXS glad your here! The Answer to your question right now is NO.. I am not..If I was, I probably wouldnt care and would stop posting my sad sob stories on here..You probably know that already though! Im hoping as time goes on if we dont work out it will be easier.. With not concentrating on another women to ease my pain kind of makes it harder to deal with right now.... I am not a very positive person by nature. Not saying its the right way to be but, I prefer in a way to look at the glass half empty. This way if things dont go my way I am not surprised. Reason I say this is thats pretty much how I have been thinking of this seperation. I do have my hopes but all in all in my head I am afraid its over..Even so I am still going to do what I can to make it work if I can by being a better man. You said you're spending a lot of time thinking about things, what kind of things? Are they constant loops going around in your head? Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts_so_bad Posted May 13, 2012 Author Share Posted May 13, 2012 You said you're spending a lot of time thinking about things, what kind of things? Are they constant loops going around in your head? Pretty much the seperation and everything else that has yet to be resolved in my life....Sometimes it seems like it is a constant loop. One day is ok the next is a horror! Link to post Share on other sites
NXS Posted May 13, 2012 Share Posted May 13, 2012 Pretty much the seperation and everything else that has yet to be resolved in my life....Sometimes it seems like it is a constant loop. One day is ok the next is a horror! Yeah these mind loops are very unhealthy, constantly regurgitating things over and over in your mind. They can drive you crazy if you let them. It's good that you've found someone to talk to. Regarding your ex it's going to remain unresolved for a long time, that's how a lot of these situations pan out. She seems happy, or at least happier, about the current situation so there's no incentive for her to change things. You're not at the stage of forcing the issue by going for a divorce or moving on so you're remaining stuck. There's nothing really wrong with that for now, you're still in a fog and not sure where to turn. Sometimes it's hard to know what to say except keep putting one foot in front of the other. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted May 13, 2012 Share Posted May 13, 2012 The big book says acceptance is the answer to all our problems - that's something you CAN do. Accept that it's this way for today. More will be revealed as the days come to you... As far as that glass half empty crap - the glass is ALWAYS full - half milk and half air! Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts_so_bad Posted May 13, 2012 Author Share Posted May 13, 2012 Thought this would get easier! 3 f**king months now and it still hurts like day 1....she is at her moms with the kids then gong to my moms. Feel like I am gonna break when I see her....this sucks! Tired of.getting hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts_so_bad Posted May 13, 2012 Author Share Posted May 13, 2012 Wish for once in my miserable life I could be the hard ass who didn't give a s**t! Link to post Share on other sites
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