mynameislacey Posted April 30, 2012 Share Posted April 30, 2012 My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost three years. I have hurt him before, never had sex with anyone else, only kissing, and very few times. I told him every time and begged forgiveness. I feel like now, I have to tell everything. he said he loves how honest i am, and to tell me if anything happens with anyone else. I feel like i have to tell him who i am with and if a guy tried to hold my hand or tried to dance with me at a club, or if i did dance with a guy at a club. Anyway, the other night i was with a group of friends, some guys and some girls, and we got drunk. I fell asleep between two guy friends, nothing at all happened, i fell asleep right away and my girlfriends were asleep right next to us. Now, i just feel guilty, even though nothing happened, i still was next to them, close, and i woke up and one of them had his arm around me. Should I tell? guilt is killing me.. Link to post Share on other sites
drifter777 Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 (edited) My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost three years. I have hurt him before, never had sex with anyone else, only kissing, and very few times. I told him every time and begged forgiveness. I feel like now, I have to tell everything. he said he loves how honest i am, and to tell me if anything happens with anyone else. I feel like i have to tell him who i am with and if a guy tried to hold my hand or tried to dance with me at a club, or if i did dance with a guy at a club. Anyway, the other night i was with a group of friends, some guys and some girls, and we got drunk. I fell asleep between two guy friends, nothing at all happened, i fell asleep right away and my girlfriends were asleep right next to us. Now, i just feel guilty, even though nothing happened, i still was next to them, close, and i woke up and one of them had his arm around me. Should I tell? guilt is killing me.. If this is true than what is there to tell? Oh - wait - I guess you feel guilty about getting drunk with other guys and (literally) sleeping with them and now you're afraid your BF won't believe you. You did nothing wrong, and it is clear you want to live the single life and enjoy your freedom. You just shouldn't be in a committed relationship until you are ready to be, well, committed. Tell you boyfriend you want to hang out with him now and then but that you want to see other people and he should too. You are young; have fun and enjoy life without this drama. Oh, and don't ever tell him. There's no reason to hurt him. Edited May 1, 2012 by drifter777 addition 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 U clearly have no intention to cheat, however, it is really disrecpectful to act in this way, when your in a relationship. You should not be in the position where you fall asleep with guys in the same bed. In a club, your boyfriend should be with you, or you should dance with girls; not guys. It is seriously rude. If you really like your b/f, you should not put yourself in the position when your drinking with guy friends, unless it is part of a group where your with your frmale friends, and never dance with the guys closely, only in a group where girls are also dancing with u; never dancing with just guys. Link to post Share on other sites
kt66 Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 you've nothing to be guilty of. he's lucky to have you Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 Didn't your parents ever teach about boundaries ? Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 Your problems would be solved if you just stopped doing this stuff, you know? and I love it--"I cheated on you, I kissed another guy" "Oh babe I love how honest you are with me" lmao. Link to post Share on other sites
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