ginastar Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 Did anyone ever have an on/ off relationship that ended up working out or has anyone ever known of one to work out and end in marriage? Link to post Share on other sites
HHC Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 For me, once the threat of break up becomes a game nothing is serious. If I 'break up' with someone, there is never ever going back for me. Of course, before the break up becomes concrete I will try my hardest to keep it alive - if it's worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ginastar Posted May 2, 2012 Author Share Posted May 2, 2012 (edited) I'm talking About couples who break up for 2 months or so then get back together, go through the honeymoon phase again... Only to break up a few months / weeks later. they do this for years. Edited May 2, 2012 by ginastar Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 Did anyone ever have an on/ off relationship that ended up working out or has anyone ever known of one to work out and end in marriage? It can, but likely won't. They wouldn't be breaking up over and over if they were fulfilled by their partner. Link to post Share on other sites
GardenDiva Posted May 8, 2012 Share Posted May 8, 2012 I broke up with my ex-husband for one year before we were married. Of course once we got together and married, it didn't last. I've never known anyone in one of those on and off relationships (and I include myself) to stay together in the long-term. There's a reason why it's "off" sometimes. People in good relationships don't break up in the first place. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ginastar Posted May 9, 2012 Author Share Posted May 9, 2012 that is interesting. I wouldnt even consider that an on/off relationship...its more like a break and then ultimately a break up. I broke up with my ex-husband for one year before we were married. Of course once we got together and married, it didn't last. I've never known anyone in one of those on and off relationships (and I include myself) to stay together in the long-term. There's a reason why it's "off" sometimes. People in good relationships don't break up in the first place. Link to post Share on other sites
BetheButterfly Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 Did anyone ever have an on/ off relationship that ended up working out or has anyone ever known of one to work out and end in marriage? One of my sisters has had a rocky relationship with her husband, which could be categorized I guess as off and on, though they have never divorced. They have been married for about 5 years, and it's a constant battle. My sister has bipolar, which makes relationships difficult. She takes medicine for her disorder, and is doing much better, but it still causes issues in her relationship once in a while. Her husband was raised by a single mother who had many male lovers and who struggled with alcohol. Because of his difficult childhood, he has many issues which surface in his marriage as well. Now, their relationship is a constant roller coaster. However, both do truly love each other and as of now, are working to make things work, in spite of the difficulties both have. People are not perfect. There are many factors that can make a relationship be an on/off one. However, if people decide to love the person no matter what and to grow individually and as a couple, people can stay together and grow in happiness. I don't know what will happen in the future with my sis and her husband. It's possible they may get divorced. However, I am so proud of my sister in all that ways that she is growing and happy that her husband is growing as well. They have 2 precious children and I know that they love their children very much, and strive to give them the best childhood they can. So, it really depends on the couple and on what factors they bring into the relationship. Mental disorders and difficult childhoods make relationships difficult, but if both partners in the couple want to, they can overcome the roller coaster of delving through those issues together. Link to post Share on other sites
GardenDiva Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 that is interesting. I wouldnt even consider that an on/off relationship...its more like a break and then ultimately a break up. Oh trust me, it was. That one year break up was after many years (6) of break-up and make-up times. It was absolutely an on again/off again thing. Those types of relationships are almost always volatile and almost never work out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ginastar Posted May 9, 2012 Author Share Posted May 9, 2012 ohhh ok. good to know. my ex is in one of these on/off things with his new gf....and i hope it fails miserably. sounds kind of mean but whatever. Oh trust me, it was. That one year break up was after many years (6) of break-up and make-up times. It was absolutely an on again/off again thing. Those types of relationships are almost always volatile and almost never work out. Link to post Share on other sites
GardenDiva Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 ohhh ok. good to know. my ex is in one of these on/off things with his new gf....and i hope it fails miserably. sounds kind of mean but whatever. I'd put money down on the fact that it will but you should try to move on and not worry about him...just sayin'. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ginastar Posted May 10, 2012 Author Share Posted May 10, 2012 Well were you the one that kept dumping? I don't get why someone would do that over and over to only go back. And also it when they get back they seem to be in the honeymoon phase all over again. Is that possible? I'd put money down on the fact that it will but you should try to move on and not worry about him...just sayin'. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ginastar Posted May 10, 2012 Author Share Posted May 10, 2012 Well were you the one that kept dumping? I don't get why someone would do that over and over to only go back. And also when they get back they seem to be in the honeymoon phase all over again. Is that possible? Link to post Share on other sites
GardenDiva Posted May 10, 2012 Share Posted May 10, 2012 Well were you the one that kept dumping? I don't get why someone would do that over and over to only go back. And also when they get back they seem to be in the honeymoon phase all over again. Is that possible? No, sometimes it was me and sometimes it was him. We just fought a lot and each and every time we thought that was IT but then we missed each other too much so we'd talk things over and try again...and again and again. And yes, each time there was a fantastic honeymoon phase. And the longer we stayed away from each other the more intense the honeymoon phase was...to the point of getting married even after the longest break, which was a year, as I mentioned. But after the honeymoon phase, it always went back to how it was before...nothing ever really changed. I was with that man 9 years total. What a waste! My mother used to say that the only way I was ever going to get him out of my system was to marry him...boy was she right! That's what it took. So after 6 years of making up and breaking up we got married...lasted almost 3 years only. What a mistake! But like I said, I'd move on if I were you and not worry about him. You ignored that part of my advice I noticed. Link to post Share on other sites
standtall Posted May 10, 2012 Share Posted May 10, 2012 I my case it did. My current wife of 16 yrs and I were on/off for 6 yrs before we got married. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ginastar Posted May 11, 2012 Author Share Posted May 11, 2012 why were you on/off for six years?? I my case it did. My current wife of 16 yrs and I were on/off for 6 yrs before we got married. Link to post Share on other sites
MooBear Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 I just came across this post (I'm new by the way ) My partner and I were very on and off for years - would break up for 3-6 months at a time then get back together for about 6 months and it would all fall apart again. Now it's been 5 years since we met and we have been together(no breakups) for just over a year and are now living together. We had a few issues early on that were not resolved and once we really decided to try, everything fell into place we still have problems and fights but now neither of us wants to break up like we did before! So it can work out, but really depends on the couple and the reasons for all the breakups I think. Link to post Share on other sites
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