Kevin Kristopher Posted June 22, 2004 Share Posted June 22, 2004 i talked with my ex last night and the conversation went really well. I asked her if she still loves me and she said forever and i asked her if she was still sexually attracted to me and she said of course so even for me the conversation went well but i sent her an e-mail telling her how i loved her and all but that i need to do the no contact thing. So when i was talking to her last night b4 we got off the phone i told her i sent her an e-mail. She called about 4pm today but i didn't answer the phone and on the voicemail she said that she hadn't read the e-mail yet. she told me she was gonna call me when she read the e-mail but she called b4 she read it, so now the no contact has started today, so i'm not gonna call her even though she asked me too in the voicemail and everyone i'm gonna be strong because i have to be strong, no if, ands or buts about it and i'm gonna make it thru. I'm not gonna think about hope and the possibilities, i'm gonna go out and be around my friends and try to meet new ones, females tho so i am wishing myself luck and i'm wishing everyone who reads this luck with there situations and hey what ever doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. Day 1, Monday June 21, 2004 5:15pm Link to post Share on other sites
dawns19 Posted June 22, 2004 Share Posted June 22, 2004 Can I ask you a question? If you really love her like you say you do, why do the no contact thing? You shouldn't want to stay away from her if you really love her, ya know what I mean? I do however, wish you the best of luck... Link to post Share on other sites
dasani08810 Posted June 22, 2004 Share Posted June 22, 2004 I don't think the "no contact" thing should be an announcement; it should be more of a lifestyle. I mentioned in another thread that 3 things can happen with no contact: 1) after you announce "No Contact" your mind gets the better of you and you fail to maintain no contact. When that happens, you appear weak and justify their actions to dump you. or 2) their mind gets the better of them because you haven't contacted them and they realize they made a mistake. or 3) their relieved!!! Why box yourself into a corner like that when, if you don't announce it and are successful at it; only #2 or #3 are the only possible outcomes? Take yourself out of the equation by just not contacting them. If they contact you, be polite and indifferent; don't discuss the relationship, don't ask who their dating, just discuss life in general. Leave that door open if you want them to return. If not, then tell them no contact and to go to hell!! But most times telling someone not to contact you is another form of manipulation; thinking they will take that as an ultimatum to either come back to you or go away. It's controlling. You want no contact; fine, just don't initiate anything. Answer only when you feel strong enough to talk to them. Link to post Share on other sites
lost_in_chgo Posted June 22, 2004 Share Posted June 22, 2004 No contact is something you do, not something you declare. Just stop contacting them, don't issue ultimatums. That can only go badly and work against you if you really want them back. Link to post Share on other sites
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