I am not sure if she is just being shy....

[jeff123]

So I am a bit shy myself....and this girl that I like is I think shy too?

 

Were in college - she was in one of my classes last year, and I ignored her when she tried to talk to me. While taking the bus, I was sitting down and felt someone was watching me, and I looked up, it was her again just standing there and smiling at me, I looked at her and just ignored her and continued to read my paper.

 

Again this was last year, and man looking back at it, what I did was pretty cruel.....the thing is, plenty of other girls do this to me and I feel disgusted/uncomfortable, so that was my reason for doing this.

 

This semester she was in my class again and I thought to myself, its the same girl. I didn't care for about a week, but then I started to notice her more and more, and she was just really pretty. I was walking out of the washroom one day and she was standing there, and we basically locked eyes for a good 6 seconds - this has never happened to me before as I usually just ignore most girls....

 

Anyways, I kept on admiring her in class, and I got caught lol. She sorta turned around to look at me, since her friends nodded to her that I was looking I guess, and she basically snapped her head to the front as soon as she noticed me starring at her lol.

 

So, throughout this semester shes been doing all of these things to grab my attention:

 

-she'd talk louder to get my attention

-she walked across the class // walked outside the class and walked back in, and I didn't realize this at first, but her friends were watching me if I was paying attention, and I really was

-I try to sit near her, and I can hear her ask her friend if I am looking at her (lol, class is pretty boring), and when her friend nods, she starts playing with her hair - she does look more pretty that way I have to admit.

 

Sooooooooo.....I was pretty shy and it took me a whole 2 months to finally talk to her, at which point she seemed really happy and enthusiastic. She even asked me for my name. Whenever I try to make eye contact with her, she would just look down so I thought she didn't want to talk to me....or was just shy.

 

 

Anyways, we bumped into each other in the library and I have a strong feeling she followed me there lol. We talked etc.

 

I thought ok since shes made a good effort to talk to me outside of class I should do the same - I waited for her in another building and she was really shocked or something. we talked about random stuff but she was pretty quiet // or scared lol. As we approached class, she said I was creeping her out but she was giggling so I thought ok I screwed up.

 

But later next week, she would do all these things to grab my attention again....she even turned around and gave me this serious look, so I thought ok maybe shes cool now.

 

Later that week, I saw her at the library, and it seemed as if she was looking for someone. I looked up at her, surprised, and as soon as she saw me, she looked strait and headed towards the exit in a serious way......

 

So I thought ok, maybe shes shy? I waited for her again near a buidling and asked if she wanted to get something to eat. She just shook her head but had this facial gesture which implied disappointment....I asked her why not, if she had things to do, and she just said I've got things to do in a giggly sorta way. So now its awkward - she starts walking faster and faster and I follow, she randomly heads to the washroom and while looking down says "ill cya later" in a serious sorta way.

 

So the next class, she does the same things even more. She asks her friend if I am looking at her or not etc. She leans her chair back to get closer to me? I don't know.....

 

lol - I am very confused and just really disappointed. I think I screwed up pretty bad when I ignored her last semester???

[CC12]

Hmm. I think it's sometimes a mistake to interpret someone's behavior as a sign that they're trying to get your attention. Talking loudly, playing with hair, giving you "serious" looks - those things could either have nothing to do with you or they could mean something very different than attraction to you.

 

It's good that you tried talking to her and even asked her out, but she said no, so it looks like it's not going to work out with her.

 

Also, try not to get caught looking at people so much. Very few people like the feeling of being watched. It's very unsettling to most.

[jeff123]

You're right - I thought maybe I was misinterpreting her actions. But I assure you, they were trying to get my attention. She was really blushing and her friend was giggling lol.

 

With that said, why would she act the way she acted when I asked her for lunch? Even after saying no in a weird way, she did these things in class to draw my attention - it was like a desperate attempt.