I have no idea what to think.

[2sunny]

I deleted J's #.

 

And I told Joe that I deserve better than substandard treatment and that I had a lot of love to give to someone who is going to give it back. then i said goodbye. we think very, very little of each other, and it's just way overdue to really let it go with Joe. He is disordered as a narcissist of the worst kind and everything I do is wrong, not enough, or twisted. I want peace in my life, and it has to start with ME.

 

I'm proud of you for deleting his number!!! Yay for you! Good work!

[xxoo]

I deleted J's #.

 

And I told Joe that I deserve better than substandard treatment and that I had a lot of love to give to someone who is going to give it back. then i said goodbye. we think very, very little of each other, and it's just way overdue to really let it go with Joe. He is disordered as a narcissist of the worst kind and everything I do is wrong, not enough, or twisted. I want peace in my life, and it has to start with ME.

 

You will never "win" with Joe. Best reaction is disinterest. You've grown beyond him, and can't be bothered.

 

Yes, focus on creating peace and stability for yourself and your kids, independent of any man.

 

When you establish that for yourself, you'll probably have a completely different outlook on what kind of man you CHOOSE to have in your life, and will wonder what the heck you ever saw in either of these guys.

 

Wish you the best!

[spice4life]

Xxoo is sooo right! That's where I am itsonlyme66 and I will never go back to how things were. I will never ever put myself in a position where a man can judge me based on my status. Never again and honestly, it feels great to say that. Peace and happiness come from within; it's when we look for outside sources to make us happy that we end up in hot water.

 

I know you are saying it itsonlyme, but I hope like h*ll that you are "seeing" it and "feeling" it too! There is a big difference.

[Itsonlyme66]

and it's really tough, let me tell you!

 

Last night I sent Joe an email that basically said, look we have hurt each other over the years ENOUGH and it's time to cut bait and just really end communication. I said i never meant to hurt him and that I was a good person (as if I have to justify my reaction to mental and verbal abuse) and I told him that I wished him all the best and to take care.

 

This morning, he wrote me 4 scathing emails that he is going to ruin my character and reputation, along with a text that read: Please leave me alone. Go have a drink and F**K someone.

 

I have not answered. This is the pathology I have been living with for 6 years and it ends for me today. I cannot deal with it and there is no reasoning or making sense with men like this.

[2sunny]

You poked the crazy by sending ANOTHER email?

 

NO! Stop sending anything!

 

You are fueling the fire!

 

Silence sends the clearest message.

 

Block his email - sooner rather than later!

 

He can't abuse YOU if you never see it or respond.

[spice4life]

Now all you have to do is stop reading his emails and texts in addition to not sending anymore. It's simply not worth the aggrevation it causes. Reading them is like asking for a punch and I'm sure you don't want that anymore, now that he is out of your life. I know how it feels because I was cyber stalked by someone who tried to abuse me like that.

 

Stay strong and delete delete delete without reading.

[Itsonlyme66]

I woke up this morning to a barrage of emails and that one nasty text.

 

I have ignored everything.

Then hour on the hour, he's sending insulting remarks. Just a half hour ago he sent a picture of some woman on my cell phone.

 

I didn't even bristle. Though there are 3 words I would like to say to her. Run, Forrest, Run!!!

 

But i feel I've passed a point today to even remark, respond, or give him a faint whisper of a heartbeat that I'm even alive. For all he knows I'm not even seeing this stuff.

 

He did threaten to slander my character to anyone I might meet in the future though. He said he would hunt them down and tell them who I REALLY am.

I don't know how to deal with that level of evil so I'm just ignoring it but I wonder if I have grounds to make him stop if he does.

[2sunny]

I woke up this morning to a barrage of emails and that one nasty text.

 

I have ignored everything.

Then hour on the hour, he's sending insulting remarks. Just a half hour ago he sent a picture of some woman on my cell phone.

 

I didn't even bristle. Though there are 3 words I would like to say to her. Run, Forrest, Run!!!

 

But i feel I've passed a point today to even remark, respond, or give him a faint whisper of a heartbeat that I'm even alive. For all he knows I'm not even seeing this stuff.

 

He did threaten to slander my character to anyone I might meet in the future though. He said he would hunt them down and tell them who I REALLY am.

I don't know how to deal with that level of evil so I'm just ignoring it but I wonder if I have grounds to make him stop if he does.

 

Block him!

[xxoo]

I have not answered. This is the pathology I have been living with for 6 years and it ends for me today. I cannot deal with it and there is no reasoning or making sense with men like this.

 

Put a sticky note on your phone with that phrase: It ends today.

 

No response, no more fuel for his crazy. He'll tire eventually, and find another target.

[Itsonlyme66]

I need to figure out how to block a sender on yahoo.

no i'm really done, and that frightens me because today I KNOW I AM DONE communicating with him, and if I ignore him I'm literally afraid of what he will do to get attention, even if it means going to everyone we know and spreading vicious lies about me.

 

I'm worried when i do find someone, he will find out who it is, corner them and tell them i have an STD (I don't) or something to maliciously ruin my chances to be happy with somebody.

 

he is not above this.

[xxoo]

I'm worried when i do find someone, he will find out who it is, corner them and tell them i have an STD (I don't) or something to maliciously ruin my chances to be happy with somebody.

 

he is not above this.

 

A man worth your time won't listen to the slanderous rantings of a jealous ex.

 

Someone vindictive told my H horrible things about me when we were dating (lies). He didn't believe a word of it. He trusted what he knew about me.

 

Anyway, you need to take some time to focus on other pressing needs. It will be a while before you should jump into another dating relationship. By that time, he won't care.

[spice4life]

I need to figure out how to block a sender on yahoo.

no i'm really done, and that frightens me because today I KNOW I AM DONE communicating with him, and if I ignore him I'm literally afraid of what he will do to get attention, even if it means going to everyone we know and spreading vicious lies about me.

 

I'm worried when i do find someone, he will find out who it is, corner them and tell them i have an STD (I don't) or something to maliciously ruin my chances to be happy with somebody.

 

he is not above this.

 

That would defamation of character and you can sue him. Keep the threatening emails and texts and speak with an attorney to find out what your rights are and how you can protect yourself. If a person knowingly spreads lies about someone they can be sued. Period.

[wellwhynot]

I need to figure out how to block a sender on yahoo.

no i'm really done, and that frightens me because today I KNOW I AM DONE .

It' easy to block someone on yahoo. Go to your buddy list, go to their name, stealth settings, chose "appear permanently offline" to this person and chose it.

Once that's done, delete them from your buddy list. All done.

[Itsonlyme66]

He just texted me about the house again. I have been ignoring him all day.

 

He wrote.

I am sending you a detailed email regarding the house situation tonight. I advise you read it.

 

We are in FL. I am on the DEED but not the mortgage.

Can he throw me out?

 

i'm contacting a lawyer because I think he's going for the jugular. i will not communicate at all with him anymore.

[xxoo]

By all means, contact an atty. If at all possible, let the atty handle the communication.

[Itsonlyme66]

When he thought i met someone new, he lost it.

 

this guy left me 3 months ago, despite my begging (I know, I was stupid) for him to stay...and continue to verbally abuse me and mentally beat me down because i got used to it after 6 years.

 

now he writes tonight that he always loved me and is "crushed" because he thinks I found someone new. He wrote "please help me with the house". Guess he knows he has no recourse.

 

well, it pulled on my heartstrings. again, i know, STUPID ME.

I wrote that I would do my best to pay and that i always loved him too and i'm sorry for the way it turned out.

 

Guess what I got for responding to Joe? He called me a "wicked c*nt".

there ya go. the mind of a pathological.

[Itsonlyme66]

I have paid the mortgage from MY checkbook ON TIME ALONE for over a year.

no way would i give him cash.

 

so no i have proof i pay it.

 

he wrote pulling at my heartstrings tonight about how much he loved me. I responded kindly. He then called me a wicked c*nt. That's what you get when you put your hand in the snake pit, I guess.

[2sunny]

So now you have evidence that he will threaten, beg, criticize and then try playing nice when you don't respond ---> then when you do - he's mean.

 

Well - that's a predictable pattern of an abuser. He needs someone - ANYONE he can abuse - someone hat ALLOWS it! Don't let that be you.

 

Take your power back - don't respond any more! Call the police if he continues... You may be able to have them go pay him a little visit that sends him a message that you aren't taking his crappy behavior anymore.

 

But it's tough for the cops to address the issues when YOU KEEP FUELING THAT FIRE - so stop communicating!