can you learn to forgive and forget?

[candyapple89]

Well there is a guy I have been seeing for about two months now. When we first met he made it clear that he likes me and stuff. However when I brought my close friend around he also made it clear he likes her asking her if she has a boyfriend, even went to the extreme of telling me not to tell her about us. I pulled him up about that telling him I thought he was disrespectful to be chatting up my friend. He told me he only likes me and he's sorry about what he said. But somehow I can't get it out my head how if he really liked me he wouldn't try and mess up his chances with me by flirting with my friend, and although its in the past I can't forget what he did. Do you think its best to move on or do you think I can learn to forgive and forget?

[skywriter]

I wouldn't dare tell you what to do, but as a woman who's been around, and made my share of mistakes in life, I'll say this;

 

Use your common sense, if you do forgive, never forget. Most of all

 

trust your gut instincts.

[Professor X]

I think it's safe to assume that you should move on. However, if you do, there's the chance he'll hook up with your friend, are you prepared for such scenario?

[Leegh]

If he had been drinking, I could possibly forgive him, as people do things they wouldn't normally do when drinking. I would give him one more chance, and if he does this again, with the same girl or another girl, it may be time for you to move on. Possibly he was doing this to make you jealous, to see what your reaction would be.

[make me believe]

However when I brought my close friend around he also made it clear he likes her asking her if she has a boyfriend, even went to the extreme of telling me not to tell her about us.

 

Wow, he straight up told you he wanted to keep you his dirty little secret so that he could make a move on your friend. Great guy you got there! Why would you give him ANY chance after that?! Come on! So after you confronted him about it he claimed that he "only likes you"? Um, ok. That's OBVIOUSLY not true, so why are you wasting your time? Dump this dude and find somebody who actually respects you and wants to be with YOU.

[candyapple89]

Hi everyone thank you for your replies. In my heart I'm thinking I can't forget. But when that happened we were only knowing each other for about 3 weeks now after 2 months we have both started developing real feelings and it just hurts me when I think back about what he done. And my friend has came back around and this time he hasn't said a word all he said was what you doing tomorrow but he seemed nervous around her still. I got feelings for him but I don't know if I can trust him

[veggirl]

Hi everyone thank you for your replies. In my heart I'm thinking I can't forget. But when that happened we were only knowing each other for about 3 weeks now after 2 months we have both started developing real feelings and it just hurts me when I think back about what he done. And my friend has came back around and this time he hasn't said a word all he said was what you doing tomorrow but he seemed nervous around her still. I got feelings for him but I don't know if I can trust him

 

You can't trust him. This early on he should have gaga eyes for you, only you, if he is interested. I would cut my losses, it's too early on to start justifying cruddy behavior.

[candyapple89]

That is true I understand exactly and the thing is we live in the same house like shared kind of thing and I remember when we first met I told him I had someone and I wadnt good for him that's why I'm thinking he was trying to get who he could. Which in no way makes it right, but when his friends are around he gets angry if I make fun of him. Saying he wants me to respect him and don't flirt with his friends so its funny how he never cared about my feelings before