2sunny Posted June 17, 2012 Share Posted June 17, 2012 Until she gets a new job and gives a TON of evidence that she's willing to do anything you require of HER to CHANGE everything - including the M you THOUGHT you had - its just more of HER lies. Actions - watch change in actions as words mean nothing! The sex is manipulation! Stop participating! Get tested! Back off and let HER do the work! Counseling and job change are first! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hoping4Better Posted June 18, 2012 Author Share Posted June 18, 2012 Don't tell her anything about VAR/keylogger and if you don't have them, plant them. Plant one on her phone too. How do you plant anything on her phone? I told her about the VAR and I knew the content she told her friends: "I fcked up by fcking around on him before(slight pause)...I knew the marriage was over" and she listened to the recording and still denies it! Says I misunderstood how the words came out on the recording! This eventually led to D and she still denies to this day! Link to post Share on other sites
SomedayDig Posted June 18, 2012 Share Posted June 18, 2012 How do you plant anything on her phone? I told her about the VAR and I knew the content she told her friends: "I fcked up by fcking around on him before(slight pause)...I knew the marriage was over" and she listened to the recording and still denies it! Says I misunderstood how the words came out on the recording! This eventually led to D and she still denies to this day! Hate to say it, but holy crap!! How does one misinterpret THAT?!!! I'm no techy, but all I did was take her phone while she was in the shower and download a tracking program that runs silently and doesn't have an icon. Took all of a minute. Since we both have Droid phones, I looked for an app on mine and then knew which one to download when I got her phone. Pretty simple actually. Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted June 18, 2012 Share Posted June 18, 2012 she listened to the recording and still denies it! I hope you realize how ridiculous you look right now, considering taking her back when she says such a thing. Right? She tagged you. And you fell for it, like many men do. Accept it, learn from it, get over it, and stay away from her. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted June 18, 2012 Share Posted June 18, 2012 Why are YOU even bothering to waste one minute on her. She's a liar and a cheat! Don't bother with her - she has no idea what decency is. You're "buying into her lies" by even having ANY conversation with her. Serving her D papers would send a clear message for moving forward. Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted June 18, 2012 Share Posted June 18, 2012 - ok to postnup, fwiw, being 'ok' with a postnup is a far cry from SIGNING a postnup. She's already proven to you that she will agree to something - quitting a job - that she has no intention of carrying through with. So SAYING she's ok with postnup is just one more example of her figuring out what you WANT TO HEAR and saying it, so she can keep eating cake. H4B, people CANNOT CHANGE IN 3 DAYS. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted June 18, 2012 Share Posted June 18, 2012 There's so much she's not telling. You are in the dark. At this point there's no reason to need her truth because it will only be more lies. Get busy looking out for YOUR best interest. No sex with her either! Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted June 18, 2012 Share Posted June 18, 2012 No sex with her either!Tagging is a woman's oldest trick in history, to get what she wants from a man. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hoping4Better Posted June 27, 2012 Author Share Posted June 27, 2012 I know what you all will say ; I told you so!' so fast forward 2 weeks together, trying work things out, she went to IC then BAM! she wants to talk. She says she want to be vibrant again and don't want to be my possession anymore, just like that we are NO more. No trying to work it out nothing. This is after she's been all lovey dovey when we went out last night. She even said she will leave the job. I am getting that sick feeling in my stomach again, I so wanted to tell her keep trying on us but I held my tougue, told her we will talk details about finances later and walked out. Still trying to figure out what went wrong. And all this time, I know there were NO contact with OM because I had tracker installed on her car. Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted June 27, 2012 Share Posted June 27, 2012 She spent this time getting her ducks in a row. She got what she needed from you. Now she's gone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hoping4Better Posted June 27, 2012 Author Share Posted June 27, 2012 (edited) Guess this is what I needed to see to be able to move on, from the spyware I put on her phone - right after we 'broke up': OM> So you got me all excited for nothing? STBXW> I guess I don't know anything bout electronics So how bout the coffee then Maybe I can just imagine for both of us...u r soo sexy did u know Wish u could get out OM> Tell you what. They say a picture is worth a thousand words. How about making it worth a couple boxes of coffee? OM> I wish I could get out to. A blowjob from u sounds so gooood STBXW> Know something I'm on birth control and I want to spread for u OM> Thai food? STBXW> Huh > Yes I'm thaifood sum him gir > Sum y u m girl OM> I would like that. Do you want me in you STBXW> Worth coffee > Yes > Daddy like OM> Deep? STBXW> I want u soo badly all up in me baby OM> Do you like my tongue? > So you want to ride me? STBX> Do I have to tell u that cuZ I wouldn't let u do that to me if I didn't > How long do I have to wait OM> Soon? STBX> CM I ride u baby can ilick first OM> When do you want to see me? STBX> When can i > I feel very sexually inclined to meet ur aqauingNce STBX> I'm hot too > Finn in me OM> And send me a picture soon please STBX> Bye OM> See you soon STBX> Mmm Edited June 27, 2012 by Hoping4Better Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted June 27, 2012 Share Posted June 27, 2012 Thank GOD you're getting away from THAT lying POS. I'm sorry, but yuck! Accept the fact that you got played, fight to save every penny and leave her in the dust. Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted June 27, 2012 Share Posted June 27, 2012 Oh, and send that to her mom and dad. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted June 27, 2012 Share Posted June 27, 2012 Now you know how she spends her time and energy. If it were me - I wouldn't spend one second of my time even bothering to communicate with that trash. She's not the woman you THOUGHT she COULD be. Never settle! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hoping4Better Posted June 27, 2012 Author Share Posted June 27, 2012 How much jail time would I get if I were to punch him in the face just this one time in front of my wife when they see each other? Does it matter if I do any more harm to this f*cker? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted June 27, 2012 Share Posted June 27, 2012 How much jail time would I get if I were to punch him in the face just this one time in front of my wife when they see each other? Does it matter if I do any more harm to this f*cker? Assault and Battery is a misdemeanor in most states, but you could still get as much as 6 months in jail and pay some pretty hefty fines. If you're found to have any kind of weapon, then it becomes Aggravated Assault, which is a felony. If convicted you could serve YEARS in jail and you could, among other things, lose your right to own a firearm and lose your right to vote. As satisfying as it might be, it isn't worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted June 27, 2012 Share Posted June 27, 2012 Uh...SHE deserves it just as much as HE does... Link to post Share on other sites
Steen719 Posted June 27, 2012 Share Posted June 27, 2012 Thank GOD you're getting away from THAT lying POS. I'm sorry, but yuck! Accept the fact that you got played, fight to save every penny and leave her in the dust. YUCK is right...blechhhh!!! How much jail time would I get if I were to punch him in the face just this one time in front of my wife when they see each other? Does it matter if I do any more harm to this f*cker? No, no, no! Do not give this woman and man one single bit of your time and emotion. Leave her in the dust and when you are down the road sometime, find a good woman, There are some out there. Don't hurt your future for someone like her. Let them have each other; it is what they deserve. get away, get away, get away Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted June 27, 2012 Share Posted June 27, 2012 How much jail time would I get if I were to punch him in the face just this one time in front of my wife when they see each other? Does it matter if I do any more harm to this f*cker? It matters to you in the end H4B. Rise above and be the better man. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hoping4Better Posted June 28, 2012 Author Share Posted June 28, 2012 Oh god please tell me this sick feeling will go away?! I am so pathetic that even considering giving her a second chance if she comes back! I know I am not going to, but it hurts like hell! Link to post Share on other sites
Steen719 Posted June 28, 2012 Share Posted June 28, 2012 Oh god please tell me this sick feeling will go away?! It gets easier; really it does. I think, generally, people have good days and bad days and you really appreciate those good days. Then, the good days come more often and although you are still hurting, you feel better. You now have in black and white what she is capable of. Read it each time you feel weak and think you will take her back. That should prevent you from giving her a second chance. I can't tell you how many times I read the exchanges I had printed out and read my journal. It helped give me perspective. You will feel better. Start looking forward. {{hugs}} to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hoping4Better Posted June 28, 2012 Author Share Posted June 28, 2012 It gets easier; really it does. I think, generally, people have good days and bad days and you really appreciate those good days. Then, the good days come more often and although you are still hurting, you feel better. You now have in black and white what she is capable of. Read it each time you feel weak and think you will take her back. That should prevent you from giving her a second chance. I can't tell you how many times I read the exchanges I had printed out and read my journal. It helped give me perspective. You will feel better. Start looking forward. {{hugs}} to you. Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted June 28, 2012 Share Posted June 28, 2012 You should be THAT mad at your wife! Not mad at him - that would be handing him too much power. Actually - the appropriate word you could feel for your wife should be disgust and disdain. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hoping4Better Posted June 28, 2012 Author Share Posted June 28, 2012 I am disgusted. I texted her last night saying that I can finally let go of her, and know nothing will save us. And that's that. Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted June 28, 2012 Share Posted June 28, 2012 Good job, H4B! Link to post Share on other sites
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