essiecarloo Posted June 22, 2004 Share Posted June 22, 2004 After 11 years together suddenly my husband buys a motorcycle rides with a group won't take me, has installed a password to his computer(we always have been open book with each other) won't paly online game with me and spends his day chatting on the computer, last week I returned home from work to find out he is going to england (we have never gone anywhere other than locally)in september (my birth month) and I am not invited. The other evening i sugested that we go to the beach and fool around he was playing a game online and said so all could hear thats not going to happen. the next morning he kicks me out of his house(we live in seperate residence) and tells me he needs a break from me.help? Link to post Share on other sites
Debster Posted June 22, 2004 Share Posted June 22, 2004 I don't understand. This man is your husband but you are not living together. He is planning a vacation and not inviting you or consulting with you about it. You play online games together where people can hear what he says to you? You communicate via an online game. This doesn't sound like any marriage I've ever heard of. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted June 22, 2004 Share Posted June 22, 2004 Sounds like a second childhood to me. I also think it's strange that you two live seperatley but are married? How old are you two? It definitley sounds like he's trying to identify himself, and he's got something else going on that he doesn't want you to have any part of. Going to England all of a sudden? What for? Does he know anyone over there or what? Something strange is going on here......hmmmm Link to post Share on other sites
Butterfly_Queen Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 Hello, I agree with the above posters, something is up! Could be he is having some kind of mid-life crisis thing going on. Its not unusual for people going through that to want to buy a new sports car or motorcycle or want to look younger etc. I would maybe try to get to the root of the problem. Him not wanting you to go places and now him going to england and all that, doesn't add up to me. Also you said something about him chatting.Who is he chatting with? I would do a little PI work of your own and find out what may or may not be going on. Usually when someone is one way and then they do a complete turn around, something is wrong. Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author essiecarloo Posted June 24, 2004 Author Share Posted June 24, 2004 I am 43 and he is 36 years old. He knows people over in england, from playing xbox live. We live in seperate residences because my teenager( from a different marraige )and my husband kept butting heads. We see each other all the time till recently, I usually stay up at his place with our daughter. sometimes he comes here, but say's now its boring over here. Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 You need to be in a real relationship. He's in fantasy-land and you need to stop supporting it. No marriage is going to last living in seperate households, because your husband and your son fight. This guy sounds like an immature little kid. Link to post Share on other sites
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