kittenhead Posted June 22, 2004 Share Posted June 22, 2004 I've been in a monogomous relationship with my boyfriend for 7 months. I am wondering what is a reasonable expectation to have of a man with regards to his friends and meeting them. I have not met many of his friends--just one that we don't share mutually--. I was invited to a party once but he changed plans last minute saying he was just being selfish and wanted to spend time with me alone (which was sweet)... He has many different pockets of friends--all over the place and I've never met any of them. And there have been a few occassions where we've ran into them unexpectedly--but I haven't been introduced--except for one occassion. I said I thought it was bad manners and to please not forget next time. But I feel devalued sort of. I'd like some honest opinions on what's reasonable to expect from a boyfriend with regards to integretion of friends. I dont want to pop up in every part of his life-- I respect his privacy--but I'm get suspitious. Is it jsut bad manners or is it too risky for him for some reason? And what could the possibilities be? Thanks for alot for your thoughts. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kittenhead Posted June 22, 2004 Author Share Posted June 22, 2004 I forgot to mention that I did give hm the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes I forget people's names and I wait for them to introduce themselves. I'll turn to my guest and explain that quickly after the intoducer has left. I asked him this and he hadn't forgotten their names. Link to post Share on other sites
cuteamidy Posted June 22, 2004 Share Posted June 22, 2004 well to me if you been dating for 7 months and havent met his friends them maybe he isntthat serious or doesnt want them to think you are his girlfriend maybe he has more than one gf and he doesnt want anyone to find out i think that you should make it a point to say i would like to meet friends and see what he says tell him exactly how you feel Link to post Share on other sites
msrealdoll Posted June 22, 2004 Share Posted June 22, 2004 My ex-husband did the same thing to me. He was just 'protecting' me, though. His friends were a bit rough, and he didn't want to expose me to them. He also didn't want me to see how he behaved around them-he acted different, more like they did. He may be hiding something, but it could be something as innocent as him not wanting you to see how he behaves around them. I'm sure it's not that he's ashamed of you or anything. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kittenhead Posted June 22, 2004 Author Share Posted June 22, 2004 I don't think he's cheating. But you may be right about the "seriousness" of the relationship. Yes, I do want to have the talk. Your insights are helpful. Link to post Share on other sites
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