Cabin Posted May 8, 2012 Share Posted May 8, 2012 For those who've followed bits and pieces of my story, I just wanted to post an update about my situation with AP. We are both separated and pursuing divorce through the legal process. Our situation is pretty well known, certainly by the exes and our friends, family, etc. People have been surprisingly gracious and accepting, particularly those who get to spend time with us together. There are hurdles ahead, no doubt, but we continue to move forward in our plan to have a legitimate life together. And we're happy. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
woinlove Posted May 8, 2012 Share Posted May 8, 2012 For those who've followed bits and pieces of my story, I just wanted to post an update about my situation with AP. We are both separated and pursuing divorce through the legal process. Our situation is pretty well known, certainly by the exes and our friends, family, etc. People have been surprisingly gracious and accepting, particularly those who get to spend time with us together. There are hurdles ahead, no doubt, but we continue to move forward in our plan to have a legitimate life together. And we're happy. Cabin, I am happy for you that things are out in the open. As you know, I spoke against your previous plan to keep everything secret for a long time and have a false coming out in the future for the children and family. I think living openly and minimizing the deception is just better all around. So, congratulations on making the transition to more honesty and openness. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
trinity1 Posted May 8, 2012 Share Posted May 8, 2012 Cabin, so happy for you! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Artie Lang Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 i wonder if they would be as "gracious" and "accepting," if they knew you two were in an affair all this time. i'd be hard-pressed to think so. Link to post Share on other sites
trinity1 Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 i wonder if they would be as "gracious" and "accepting," if they knew you two were in an affair all this time. i'd be hard-pressed to think so. Who cares as long as they are happy now? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 For those who've followed bits and pieces of my story, I just wanted to post an update about my situation with AP. We are both separated and pursuing divorce through the legal process. Our situation is pretty well known, certainly by the exes and our friends, family, etc. People have been surprisingly gracious and accepting, particularly those who get to spend time with us together. There are hurdles ahead, no doubt, but we continue to move forward in our plan to have a legitimate life together. And we're happy. Congrats cabin! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
wellwhynot Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 Congrats. I wish you both much happiness together. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Emme Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 Cabin I wish you all the best. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
cocorico Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 Congratulations Cabin! It's wonderful when things work out for the best! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PeineDeCoeur Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 Hi Cabin; I'm glad to read your story and see that sometimes different outcomes ARE possible. Thanks for sharing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Radagast Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 Congratulations Cabin. It seems like another success story in the making! I wish you every success and joy in your new life together. Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 Agree with the above posters as well...glad to hear it's all out in the open, and moving forward! And...be cautious about lowering your boundaries or being willing to accept "less" respect from AP than you would from someone else. Never be afraid to INSIST on what you need. Hope this works out great for all the parties involved and impacted. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cabin Posted May 12, 2012 Author Share Posted May 12, 2012 Thanks for the kind words of support from those who posted. We definitely have hurdles ahead and the circumstances around this relationship make it more complicated than traditional couplings, but we both feel and think (heart and mind) that we are on the right track with our lives and our plans to be together. Having gone through this experience, often turning to Loveshack for others' insights and ideas, I realize that there really are no two affairs (or marriages) alike. The reasons my AP was able to leave his W (and me my H) are unique to us and our unique former marriages. The reasons why others can't/won't leave are unique to them. I am just really looking forward to growing our unique relationship in time. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Radagast Posted May 14, 2012 Share Posted May 14, 2012 It appears that you are approaching the future mindful of potential hurdles but optimistic about the outcome, sort of "grounded optimism" which I think augurs well for your future. Well done and good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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