b_80_h Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 (edited) I've been struggling for almost a year now with a steadily worsening situation, and it's got my relationship with the 'rents on veritable life support. Over the last year, I left the university I was attended, enrolled in a community college, and my life has genuinely been frustrating. I'm almost 20, I've got very little job experience, and I can't seem to find a job anywhere. With my parents' finances getting extremely tight, my efforts have been questioned, and I'm viewed as a leach at this point. Add my struggles with my school motivations and (probably) depression to the brew, and it's finally boiled over. So here's my problem: My mom is cracking down with a vengeance, and I'm slowly losing my freedom around the house. I want to go back to a university next fall, but with my motivation for academics at an all time low, I think I only want to return so I can have ANY form of a social life. I'd like to finish my Bachelor's degree, but I'm more worried right now about escaping. Add in a sudden wanderlust, and it's getting a lot more headache-inducing. The situation's looking tough now. I HAVE to escape my mom at this point, or I have to fix the problem (which she seems to be making more difficult by the moment). I know my parents are stressed, but I'm having significant problems on my own that I can't reconcile with my parents. So how do I go about this? Do I try to fight the dragon? Do I run screaming away? How should this frustrated, jobless young adult approach this puzzle? Edited May 9, 2012 by b_80_h left something out Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 Get your ducks in a row. Save some money and move out. If you don't have the experience to get a job, volunteer or do an internship. Do retail if you have to. Until you have some money coming in, it's difficult to be independent from your parents. Otherwise, you might just have to suck it up until you can affrod to move out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author b_80_h Posted May 9, 2012 Author Share Posted May 9, 2012 Get your ducks in a row. Save some money and move out. If you don't have the experience to get a job, volunteer or do an internship. Do retail if you have to. Until you have some money coming in, it's difficult to be independent from your parents. Otherwise, you might just have to suck it up until you can affrod to move out. The challenging element to this is my parents' finances. They're on the brink of bankruptcy, so I NEED a source of employment that pays... Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 The challenging element to this is my parents' finances. They're on the brink of bankruptcy, so I NEED a source of employment that pays... You have to start somewhere. If you don't have any experience or qualifications, it's extremely difficult to walk into a megabucks job. I suggest finding a job that you can do standing on your head just to get some cashflow and at the same time, keep your eye on the jobs market for something that pays more and is more in line with your career goals. Work out a budget and save every cent you can. Look at rental ads to see how much you'll need. Keep your head down but your eye on the goal. Link to post Share on other sites
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