sman Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 First off, we're young. I'm 21, she is 20. However, this girl and I have been best friends for 7 years. Or our ENTIRE adult lives. We've always been open with the fact that we love each other, but she has had abuse as a child which makes her scared of loss and has told me that she couldn't live without me, and thus can't be with me. She just got out of a relationship that wasn't healthy, rife with physical and psychological abuse. After I learned of the abuse, I naturally distanced myself a little from the situation. It hurt me to see that situation and have no control whether or not she's safe. I told her after the fact that I thought the guy was a coward and that I wanted to make him hurt worse than she did for laying a mean hand on her, she said I was the only person in that world that could say that and have her respect it. She constantly tells me she needs me, she loves me, I'm her best friend. About two weeks ago, we were drinking at her house with a group of her friends, she started showing me off to all her friends I didn't know systematically, saying rather private things, such as that we had slept together which isn't true and I don't get why she would bring it lie. We've done literally everything else, but have NOT copulated. Look, I know it's a long story, but it consumes me every day that I need to just confront her and be completely honest, hoping that it will be reciprocated. I've been around the block. I've had relationships, I've had hookups, I've had one nighters. Fun, but not fulfilling. I'm sick of cuddling and kisses on the cheek and holding hands. I am convinced we are soul mates. Or at least that she is my true love. I'm beginning to become sexually inadequate with other women, and often fantasize that it's her. I know deep down she feels the same way, but I don't know how to make her know. Or how to get it out of her. Or whatever it may be. Thank you all so much for your input, I don't know of anyone who is in a similar situation really. Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 There's only one way to find out, and that's just to ask her. Just ask if she'd ever consider dating you. See what she says. You don't have to profess your deepest feelings or make it into something dramatic. Just ask, and see what happens next. Link to post Share on other sites
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