alexandria35 Posted May 12, 2012 Share Posted May 12, 2012 You have mentioned more than once that you don't want to be honest with this guy or upset him because he is your bosses son and you don't want to hurt your job. I'm curious to know what you think it's going to be like at work after he leaves his wife for you and everyone at your job knows this. Will this piss off the boss who happens to be MM's parent? Link to post Share on other sites
Bellechica Posted May 12, 2012 Share Posted May 12, 2012 Laura if you feel you cannot be entirely honest with him because of the context, you can at least tell him you do not want to be responsible for breaking up his family. That will allow him an "out" where he can feel that he is doing the responsible thing should he choose to remain with them, or if he chooses to divorce, it at least absolves you of any need to play any further role in the situation. Right now you are setting yourself up to be trapped in a situation you do not want, if he chooses you, or for feeling rejected, if he does not. I agree with other members who have suggested that you take your own agency and remove yourself from the decision. Even if you cannot be completely honest about not loving him or not wanting to be with him full-time. At least if you act and choose to step away in that way you are not a victim of someone else's choosing and doomed to unhappiness whichever way the choice turns out. This is solid advice.....you see no future with this man, but you don't want end it. You need to end it for good. You don't have to tell him you don't truly love him, but you need for him to know that you will not be able to bear the guilt of being the person responsible for breaking up his family. Let him go...... Link to post Share on other sites
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