ccmm9290 Posted May 10, 2012 Share Posted May 10, 2012 So I have been with my fiance for a year now , love at first sight . We moved in together 3 months ago and just this week found out I am pregnant big shocker to be honest but we are happy. But for about 2 months I have had the worst trouble trusting and believing him and I don't know how much more I can stand. Here is the story to why I don't trust him . Christmas time we drove 14hrs to see his family well on our way back home his first love/ex text-ed him and said why are you leaving so soon . I confronted him right away and he denied knowing anything about what she said. Then we get home and I find out they have been talking and he has told her everything about us and that we fight all the time and at that point we had never really fought. Well he said he was changing numbers and would have no more contact with her. One night I went to our room to do something and saw his phone was a ringing and took it to him and I could tell he got upset right away and I was like who is it he was like you know. Instantly yes I was upset so I took my dog for a walk trying to calm down before we talked. Well there is no talking with him he blows up right away. And recently he has had his phone in his pockets at all times keeps it out of my sight or gets on the computer and hides what he is doing I confronted him about it and he trys telling me I am crazy. What would you say is going on?? As well a week ago he wanted me to delete my FB due to my ex husband still contacting my family . I dont see that it had anything to do with me since thats the way I met him and my family loves him just the same or more. So I deleted my facebook he was supposed to of deleted his but I looked at history in my computer and saw FB FB FB and he even went as far as changing his yahoo password. Advice please Link to post Share on other sites
dasein Posted May 10, 2012 Share Posted May 10, 2012 Sorry you are having to go through this treatment. Would advise not continuing to move towards marriage with this man. He is telling you with his behavior that he has little respect for your feelings at all, only his, and is willing to hold you to double standards. Bad bet. No idea the extent of what is going on with his ex, but whatever it is it is very inconsiderate of your feelings. This is not likely to improve. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ccmm9290 Posted May 10, 2012 Author Share Posted May 10, 2012 So why did he go as far as changing his yahoo password I know if I confront him it's just going to p*ss him off and try will b yet another all night argument in my house he claims he is ready for the baby to be here but it's nonstop BS coming from his end and I do everything possible to keep him happy I am about to my breaking point Link to post Share on other sites
dasein Posted May 10, 2012 Share Posted May 10, 2012 The only way this kind of disrespect is going to change is if he knows you have a foot out the door for real, and that might not work. Try not to focus on "is he or isn't he," passwords, phone stuff, etc., but on the massive levels of disrespect he is showing you, the mother of his child, by not being more forthright and considerate. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ccmm9290 Posted May 10, 2012 Author Share Posted May 10, 2012 So what I tell him I'm leaving I just tried talking to him and he got mad FML Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted May 11, 2012 Share Posted May 11, 2012 So I have been with my fiance for a year now , love at first sight it's passion at first sight, not love. We moved in together 3 months ago and just this week found out I am pregnant big shocker to be honest but we are happy. But for about 2 months I have had the worst trouble trusting and believing him and I don't know how much more I can stand. Here is the story to why I don't trust him . Christmas time we drove 14hrs to see his family well on our way back home his first love/ex text-ed him and said why are you leaving so soon . I confronted him right away that's a bit odd, why would you do that and he denied knowing anything about what she saidreally ????. Then we get home and I find out they have been talking and he has told her everything about us and that we fight all the time and at that point we had never really fought. Well he said he was changing numbers and would have no more contact with herstrike 1. One night I went to our room to do something and saw his phone was a ringing and took it to him and I could tell he got upset right away and I was like who is it he was like you know. Instantly yes I was upset so I took my dog for a walk trying to calm down before we talked. Well there is no talking with him he blows up right awaystrike 2; he blew up to remove the guilt from him, to make you the bad guy ... it's a manipulating tactic. And recently he has had his phone in his pockets at all times keeps it out of my sight or gets on the computer and hides what he is doing I confronted him about it and he trys telling me I am crazy. What would you say is going on?? you know what he is doing on his PC or why he did this ... he is hiding something As well a week ago he wanted me to delete my FB due to my ex husband still contacting my family . I dont see that it had anything to do with me since thats the way I met him and my family loves him just the same or more. So I deleted my facebook he was supposed to of deleted his but I looked at history in my computer and saw FB FB FB and he even went as far as changing his yahoo password. so he's still in contact with his ex-gf Advice please Leave ... why is your ex-husband, your X ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author ccmm9290 Posted May 11, 2012 Author Share Posted May 11, 2012 My ex husband was abusive , cheated and tol me he did had no wants to work it out Link to post Share on other sites
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