My partner believes that i slept with a friend

[Grieving Partner]

I just went to meet up a 10 yr old frnd and aftr d dinner n drinks got late so he insisted dat i go to his house which I did. But i hid this from my boyfriend on phone that I was at his place. But hell broke when that friend askd me for a one nite stand.I freaked out and ran away from his house. Afraid to tell him the truth but still wanting to share my shock I told him that i was asked by him when he came to drop me at my place. In a day he caught me. Them I told him the truth but still hid sum extreme things he did. He again caught me and then I told him the complete truth that nothin happened and I wasnt involved with him at all. Now the problem is that he doesn't trust me anymore and thinks that I mutually got sexually involved with my friend.I was already shattered by the betrayal of my friend and this doubt of him is killing me. Since he lives in a different city, i visited him and he said that he believes me but after coming back the same doubt is there. He has given me one month time to tell him the truth but I hv already told him everything and there is nothin to hide but he dsnt believe me. What should I do. He is badly hurt and having sleepless nites thinking about this. We both love each other a lot but that doubt is taking us away from each other. Please help!!!!!!!!

[whichwayisup]

Do you see how your bf feels betrayed by you since you lied right from the beginning? You allowed yourself to get sucked in by another guy. Never should have gone to his place to begin with. You lied again and got caught. your bf doesn't trust you because of that and because of that behaviour he now believes you've physically cheated on him.

 

Offer to take a lie detector test. OWN your mistakes in lying to him. Tell him that you won't go to ANY male friends houses at night, or during the day. You need to show him in actions, not just words that you are sorry and that you won't lie to him about anything, ever again.

 

Put yourself in his shoes..Flip the situation around and ask yourself if YOU would believe HIM after the lying and sneaking around, being caught in lies after lies.. I'm sure you'd have a hard time taking him at his word if he told you he did not sleep with another woman.

[HHC]

That was too painful to read the whole way through

[lonelyandfrustrated]

I just went to meet up a 10 yr old frnd and aftr d dinner n drinks

 

I suggest you stop drinking with 10 year olds.

[William]

I suggest you stop drinking with 10 year olds.

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