irc333 Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 I saw this woman, a professor at a local college, tall, leggy blonde, etc. Usually when I think Tall woman, I think 5'8 or 5'9" But no, she's 6 feet tall!! It's kind of funny how the tables turn in these regards, because women of this height will probably say, "I like tall men" But, wait a min...she is JUST AS TALL as these "tall men". From my experience, women won't date guys of equal height. I'm 5'8",and I as of yet to meet a woman that will date a man that's 5'8, or around equal height. But when women break the 6 feet barrier, she may have to even REVERSE her height requirements, yes? Any 6 feet women here have to settle on guys their OWN height (6 feet)? 6 feet is even tall for a man, but there might be extenuating circumstances for a woman that'st he same height as the average TALL guy. Just curious.
NeverDated Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 I'm only 5'6" but I had a "rule" that I'd only date guys 5'11" and up. Boyfriend is just shy of 5'8". *shrug* I think height is sometimes less of an issue than people make it out to be... 2
carhill Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 I recall when a certain 'tall' actress married a shorter and much poorer muso and, TBH, seeing them together in public personally (when she would go to his concerts and sit at the sound/lights board), it didn't really register that she was 'taller' or 'richer'. They're just people, now married around six years and with two children. Good on 'em. I've seen similar examples in my personal 'real life' like this. Perhaps those examples fight stereotype or merely refute the stereotype. I descend from a 'tall' for her time woman who married a short, wiry man and was married to him for life. Until running across these 'height' threads on LS, I had no idea of such dynamics. It was outside of my life experience. I was taller than my dad after my first growth spurt in puberty and ended up looking well down to him and being nearly twice his weight, yet he still commanded respect and admiration. Those aspects don't require physical size, rather mental and emotional 'size', IMO. Same goes for the six foot and over crowd. It's just numbers. 1
veggirl Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 I'm about 5'9 (5'8 and 3/4ths!!) and I have dated my height before, not sure why you think girls won't date their height? Well, nm, we do read on LS all the time that they won't, lol. Anyway. My ex roommate is 6' and she dated guys shorter than her all the time, she never was phased by it. She didn't wear heels or anything but yeah she was taller than many of her guys. ETA: she is a VERY pretty girl. Guys approached her a lot, including loads of guys shorter than her. A woman who is 6ft and not good looking may be SOL........
ThaWholigan Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Meh, 6 foot girls tend to be quite hot in my experience. I have never known tall girls to have problems dating, or holding out for a tall man.
Author irc333 Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 I'm about 5'9 (5'8 and 3/4ths!!) and I have dated my height before, not sure why you think girls won't date their height? Well, nm, we do read on LS all the time that they won't, lol. Anyway. My ex roommate is 6' and she dated guys shorter than her all the time, she never was phased by it. She didn't wear heels or anything but yeah she was taller than many of her guys. ETA: she is a VERY pretty girl. Guys approached her a lot, including loads of guys shorter than her. A woman who is 6ft and not good looking may be SOL........ I wonder if she wasn't phased by it, because she had more short guys approaching her than taller ones?
veggirl Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 I wonder if she wasn't phased by it, because she had more short guys approaching her than taller ones? Well sure. I mean that makes sense, since most guys aren't her height, the average guy is shorter than her. She wasn't self conscious, it was like she didn't even notice they were shorter than her. I thought it was cool I was only friends with her for a year (I actually can't stand her now, haha) but I don't remember ever seeing her with a guy who was even as tall as she was, most of them were about my height. 1
threebyfate Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 It's not as if taller men don't exist. My husband's 3"+ over 6'. As an example of tall woman/tall men, look to Giselle Bundchen (5'11")and Tom Brady (6'4").
somedude81 Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 The only way a taller woman can affected by her height is if she if she has rigid standards. Otherwise it doesn't any any impact on her at all.
ThaWholigan Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 It's not as if taller men don't exist. My husband's 3"+ over 6'. As an example of tall woman/tall men, look to Giselle Bundchen (5'11")and Tom Brady (6'4"). Taller men are not as common though. I sometimes find myself towering over people when I am out, and I never even considered myself to be that tall. Turns out, 6 foot 3 is pretty tall . They aren't rare or anything, I meet tall people often (tallest person I've met is 7 foot 6 - he was tallest man in Britain at the time), just not as frequently as the amount of people who are shorter than me. 1
FrustratedStandards Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Just because she is over 6 feet doesn't mean she doesn't want a man who is taller, but she understands that it's going to be harder for her to find one, so she is more likely to settle with a man of her height. For the record, 6 feet isn't TALL for a guy. It's great height, but TALL is 6'2 and up, at least from my own perspective. To me, 5'9 is average for a guy, 6 feet is very good but 6'2 and up is ideal. I'm 5'10.
threebyfate Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Taller men are not as common though. I sometimes find myself towering over people when I am out, and I never even considered myself to be that tall. Turns out, 6 foot 3 is pretty tall . They aren't rare or anything, I meet tall people often (tallest person I've met is 7 foot 6 - he was tallest man in Britain at the time), just not as frequently as the amount of people who are shorter than me.Agreed they're not rare. The ex-husband's of similar height and so are some male friends of H. and of myself.
threebyfate Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Go to North Korea or China and say six feet tall isnt tall for a guy.Go to scandinavian countries and tell me six feet isn't average for men. 4
NeverDated Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Agreed they're not rare. The ex-husband's of similar height and so are some male friends of H. and of myself. I think the height issue must be geographic, even in the US. I'd say the "average" guy around here in farm country is 6'1/6'2". My ex-husband was well over 6 feet, as were almost all his friends. Last job I had, pretty much all the guys in the office were 6'+. Probably because people in this area are comprised mainly of German/Polish flavors, with a good intermingling of Native American blood. 1
Radu Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 I recall when a certain 'tall' actress married a shorter and much poorer muso and, TBH, seeing them together in public personally (when she would go to his concerts and sit at the sound/lights board), it didn't really register that she was 'taller' or 'richer'. They're just people, now married around six years and with two children. Good on 'em. I've seen similar examples in my personal 'real life' like this. Perhaps those examples fight stereotype or merely refute the stereotype. I descend from a 'tall' for her time woman who married a short, wiry man and was married to him for life. Until running across these 'height' threads on LS, I had no idea of such dynamics. It was outside of my life experience. I was taller than my dad after my first growth spurt in puberty and ended up looking well down to him and being nearly twice his weight, yet he still commanded respect and admiration. Those aspects don't require physical size, rather mental and emotional 'size', IMO. Same goes for the six foot and over crowd. It's just numbers. It's like you are describing my mom and dad's and their married life. o.0 Some great looking girls at 6 feet and humble too [something that many women i meet today seem to lack], if no others will touch them, more for me to pick from.
sid3 Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 I don't think tall women are SOL so to speak. I think there's more than enough tall men to provide them with dating opportunities. I'm 6 2" and see taller guys quite often.
RedRobin Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 OP, I don't have height requirements and never have. The men I've dated who were shorter than me... they seemed to be the ones with the issues. Same goes with men who made less than me, or had less education. Even when I've never brought any of it up, they were usually the ones who were insecure about it. I think it is best for people do their best to manage their own insecurities and not project them onto others. You can't assume what someone's preferences are until you get to know them. 2
sid3 Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 You can't assume what someone's preferences are until you get to know them Oh really? Funny you should say that;)
RedRobin Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 Oh really? Funny you should say that;) Yes, I do tend to take things rather literally... It's tough to push me off that rock. People broadcast their interests in many, many ways. Most of the time, they really do tell you... So there is no point in self-selecting.
sid3 Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 Yes, I do tend to take things rather literally... It's tough to push me off that rock. Maybe someone just needs to help you off that rock instead of pushing you off.
kaylan Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 (edited) I think OP has the situation in reverse. Based on my experiences, the guys ive talked to, and the women Ive talked to, many a time when a tall women has trouble dating its because a lot of guys dismiss tall women. Ive been attracted to tall girls, and hell Ive even been super attracted to some amazon type student athletes when I was in college....but I prefer a smaller gal because I feel more masculine when in the presence of her feminine stature. (this is just in comparison to me at 5'9...i find women of 5'6 and under to be more feminine when all things are equal with taller women) But I still do get a super masculine rush with larger women. I feel like Im conquerig a whole lotta woman, and to make a gal of such stature feel like a delicate woman despite not being larger than her is really rewarding. So to be really honest, and to sum up what Ive said, Id say smaller women have only a little bit of edge of larger women. I dunno, Im an average sized guy, so despite my preference I could feel awesome with a girl of any size provided shes got some strong feminine qualities of some sort. Edited May 13, 2012 by kaylan 1
dasein Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 I don't think height deters men from approaching taller women whom they find attractive, certainly doesn't deter me. Lots of women 5'6" and up are taller than lots of men due to wearing high heels, and I don't see men running away from those.
Author irc333 Posted May 13, 2012 Author Posted May 13, 2012 Wow, just thought I'd not meet a woman any taller, one RIGHT on POF in my local area...shes' athletic, and 6'3" Holy shyt!! Funny, she has in ALL caps as a closing sentence, "Please can you talk about about something else OTHER than my height?? To quote George Costanza, I wonder what would be like to have sex with a woman THAT tall?!?! A GIANT!
Author irc333 Posted May 13, 2012 Author Posted May 13, 2012 I think OP has the situation in reverse. Based on my experiences, the guys ive talked to, and the women Ive talked to, many a time when a tall women has trouble dating its because a lot of guys dismiss tall women. Ive been attracted to tall girls, and hell Ive even been super attracted to some amazon type student athletes when I was in college....but I prefer a smaller gal because I feel more masculine when in the presence of her feminine stature. (this is just in comparison to me at 5'9...i find women of 5'6 and under to be more feminine when all things are equal with taller women) Yeah, I really have no stringent height hang up. I love 'em short OR they could be Amazonian. As long as they have great body at ANY height. But sadly, a woman could have a hot bod, killer juggs, etc....but if she's an amazon (which accounts for everything ELSE that's big about her), some men will dismiss her. Just don't understand that. I know dudes that won't touch hot red heads with a 10 foot pole. To some men, red heads are a dealbreaker. I have a friend that's intimidated by them.
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