milla Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 OK, I know I sound really pathetic, but today is the second day that my husband hasn't called me at all and I'm freaking out. I'm so upset by this, but I can't call him because... I don't want to talk to someone that obviously doesn't want to hear from me. I don't want to force/inflict myself on him if he really doesn't want to talk to me. I'm the one that left him, which makes me feel even stupider. I've noticed in the past week when I call his office, people always tell me he's out... and then he doesn't call back. Maybe I haven't been fair. Maybe he needs to not talk to me. I don't know. This is so hard. Why am I so co-dependent. I feel like I need to talk to him and it's driving me nuts that I'm getting the silent treatment. Is this better though? Do you think it's better to not talk to each other? I'm trying to tell myself it's better, but I don't know. Link to post Share on other sites
honey2005 Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 I think it's better to have no contact. If you're feeling this way about not hearing from him, don't you think he might be feeling the same ? If he's the one who hasn't been returning your phone calls, and always being out when you need him, let him stir in his juices for awhile, and when it gets bad enough, he will get in touch with you, and you can work through your problems together. I understand that you feel like you NEED to talk to him, I've been there. But after awhile you will realize that you can wait, and that the end result will be better if you don't show yourself as desperate or needy. Let him be the one to give in. Link to post Share on other sites
KANSAN Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 you left him right? then if you want to talk its on you! imo. ya know if you wanted to talk to him every day or whatever than why divorce him. He's probably saying to himself wtf does she want now she already broken my heart what does she want to torture me now. if you want to talk and stuff and you miss him than it sounds to me like you need to stop playing games and make the relationship that it seems that you messed up right. IMO. Link to post Share on other sites
Author milla Posted June 23, 2004 Author Share Posted June 23, 2004 Originally posted by KANSAN you left him right? then if you want to talk its on you! imo. ya know if you wanted to talk to him every day or whatever than why divorce him. He's probably saying to himself wtf does she want now she already broken my heart what does she want to torture me now. if you want to talk and stuff and you miss him than it sounds to me like you need to stop playing games and make the relationship that it seems that you messed up right. IMO. Wow, you are harsh and judgemental and you don't even know what my story is, so how can you respond to me saying I need to make the relationship I messed up right? WTF ever. Exactly how do you know who the hell messed up??? YOU DON'T. If you notice, I haven't put the details of my marriage in this post, so I'd appreciate if you left out your stupid comments based on your assumptions. "stop playing games"... whatever! I was expecting to hear whether posters thought it was better not to have contact and/or how to get passed my feelings of neediness and being lonely - a lot of people have been through the same thing. Does it help not to be in contact? I don't need to come here to defend myself from ignorant, insensitive assumptions. I don't think that is too much to ask! Link to post Share on other sites
honey2005 Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 Hey, I'm here for you if you need to talk. Link to post Share on other sites
Author milla Posted June 27, 2004 Author Share Posted June 27, 2004 I appreciate it . Link to post Share on other sites
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