LoveLost1020 Posted May 13, 2012 Share Posted May 13, 2012 (edited) Let me make this short as possible. I met this girl towards the end of last semester and to be honest, we hit it off immediately!! Things couldn't of been more great! It was everything I could ask for. We even stayed in contact over winter break while she was in another country visiting family. So as you can imagine we spent tons of time together this semester. We discussed starting a long distance relationship because she's graduating this year and even exchanged how we may love each other. Now here's the problem... She's a great girl but she makes a lot of stupid choices when she's drunk...ALOT. I once caught her talking to another guy on the phone while I was with her. I knew it was a guy just from the conversation. I asked her about it and she lied to my face repeatedly. I had to threaten to end things with her for her to confess the truth. I told her it was over and she came crawling back to me the next day and I forgave her and took her back. The next incident was in early March while she was back home. She mentioned how she ran into her ex but nothing happened. Still not trusting her completely from the last incident, I checked her phone and noticed her and the ex's text convo. Just to say it was kind of an inappropriate convo to have especially if you "care" about someone else and I also believe they hung out that night too from the convo. I'm sure she was drunk also because she was also texting me that same night telling me how wasted she was. Furious, I stormed out and sent her a text message ending things again and I confronted her about her and ex hanging out and she lied to me again even after I read their convo. I took her back of course after being lied to yet again but she just doesn't know I seen their convo. Everything else has been good, but I don't trust her very much so I still check her phone from time to time and see convos with other guys I don't know that are very flirtatious. I checked her social netwroks and even seen how guys send her their # and she texts them. Basically, she's about to graduate and we had the discussion about beginning a relationship LD but I told her I dont trust her to do that myself. I care for her extremely despite everything so I agreed that we should just be friends, but I feel maybe I should forgive her for everything and just try it out. I thought to myself if I cant even trust her at all while she's drinking, how am I supposed to trust her away from me? Am I wrong? Edited May 13, 2012 by LoveLost1020 Link to post Share on other sites
daphne Posted May 13, 2012 Share Posted May 13, 2012 Are you wrong for not trusting her? Is that a serious question? You know you can't trust her, based on her repeated lying. The real question you should be asking yourself is why you keep taking her back. Do you think she'll change? Magic 8 ball says it's highly unlikely. Especially since you have taken her back every time you caught her in a lie and she's lost respect for you. You can get respect back, but you're going to need to move on without her for that to happen imo. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted May 13, 2012 Share Posted May 13, 2012 I thought to myself if I cant even trust her at all while she's drinking, how am I supposed to trust her away from me? Am I wrong? How is it that you have any trust for her at all, even when she's not drinking? If I read right, some of those lies were told when she was sober. And it's repeated lying, not just one incident where she made a bad decision. I think you've got those blinders on that a lot of people get when they really want to be with someone who isn't good for them. You're making excuses for her and questioning your own common-sense suspicions. Don't do that. You know you can't trust her. Just move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LoveLost1020 Posted May 13, 2012 Author Share Posted May 13, 2012 How is it that you have any trust for her at all, even when she's not drinking? If I read right, some of those lies were told when she was sober. And it's repeated lying, not just one incident where she made a bad decision. I think you've got those blinders on that a lot of people get when they really want to be with someone who isn't good for them. You're making excuses for her and questioning your own common-sense suspicions. Don't do that. You know you can't trust her. Just move on. Yea, youre extremely right. Something keeps telling me to just get rid of this girl but I keep ignoring my instincts. I don't trust her at all and if there's no trust, there's nothing there. Link to post Share on other sites
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