alexandra. Posted May 13, 2012 Share Posted May 13, 2012 Evening Loveshack, I usually lurk here but tonight I have a little anecdote some of you might be able to relate to. I haven't been in a relationship (or even a fling!) since my long-term relationship ended.... quite some time ago. Now, It so happens that as part of my job, I work in two different workplaces. In workplace one, a co worker has blatantly expressed interest in me several times over the last 12 months. I went on a couple of dates with him but I feel no attraction to him as a dating prospect. I've had to make it clear that I only wish to have a professional relationship with him, but I can tell that his attraction persists... long looks, acting awkward around me etc. In workplace two, I am incredibly attracted to one of my bosses, who is also kind of a mentor to me. We have a good working relationship and I think I hide my attraction to him reasonably well, but I suppose maybe he might suspect something, just as I do in with the co-worker in workplace one. Until semi-recently he was off-limits as he had a long-term girlfriend. This has since ended. I feel deflated about the whole thing because I feel like, although he is open to dating again, he is not/would be attracted to me that way. At least not attracted enough to compromise our professional relationship. It's almost worse than when he was off-limits, knowing that he is not interested regardless. I have tried to ignore it/just try to enjoy it and use it as motivation to boost my job performance... I know it's quite common to get crushes on your boss (for lots of reasons other than how great a person they might be!) but lately it's been getting me down.... I feel like this guy is the complete package and I'd love for him (or even someone like him!) to be the special someone in my life. Meanwhile, he is probably thinking of someone else. Isn't life messed up sometimes! I suppose that, given this is love shack, a lot of other people have probably experienced a similar thing. Add your comments or stories of your own unrequited love.... it might make us all feel a bit better. Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted May 13, 2012 Share Posted May 13, 2012 You never know how it might turn out, but I do understand what you mean. My life seems to have been a never-ending train of me liking someone who isn't interested in me or someone falling in love with me who I barely like. I would just like it to be two-way at some stage, at least once again. But then, relationships seem to be like that and it's quite rare that two get together and both feel as strongly about each other. It's magic when it happens though 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Princess71 Posted May 15, 2012 Share Posted May 15, 2012 Oh, you have written my life story! With the exception of one relationship, all I've ever had was unrequieted love. I'm in the middle of one MISERABLE situation now with someone that I met as a friend. I had no interest in him for months and then all of a sudden we both seemed to like each other at the same time. He wasn't a good friend, I would just see him in a group setting. We started flirting over the Internet and then he came over one day and we made out. After that he backed off. I just don't get it. He knew me for months so what changed???? How aggravating is that????? I asked him what happened in an email and he said he doesn't know, that he does this all the time with women. The thing is, when we were friends he did do this to other girls. He would start seeing someone once or twice and then the girl would harass him and curse him out for not returning calls and acting like an ass. He said the girls were crazy but now I'm not so sure.....I think he may have a problem but it doesn't stop me from loving him Link to post Share on other sites
crazylove Posted May 15, 2012 Share Posted May 15, 2012 Oh, you have written my life story! With the exception of one relationship, all I've ever had was unrequieted love. I'm in the middle of one MISERABLE situation now with someone that I met as a friend. I had no interest in him for months and then all of a sudden we both seemed to like each other at the same time. He wasn't a good friend, I would just see him in a group setting. We started flirting over the Internet and then he came over one day and we made out. After that he backed off. I just don't get it. He knew me for months so what changed???? How aggravating is that????? I asked him what happened in an email and he said he doesn't know, that he does this all the time with women. The thing is, when we were friends he did do this to other girls. He would start seeing someone once or twice and then the girl would harass him and curse him out for not returning calls and acting like an ass. He said the girls were crazy but now I'm not so sure.....I think he may have a problem but it doesn't stop me from loving him Sounds like a commitmentphobe:( Know the feeling sadly... Link to post Share on other sites
Author alexandra. Posted May 16, 2012 Author Share Posted May 16, 2012 You never know how it might turn out, but I do understand what you mean. My life seems to have been a never-ending train of me liking someone who isn't interested in me or someone falling in love with me who I barely like. I would just like it to be two-way at some stage, at least once again. But then, relationships seem to be like that and it's quite rare that two get together and both feel as strongly about each other. It's magic when it happens though Yes, completely relate. I just seem to see a lot of my friends either in long-term relationships, or easily moving in and out of them, and I wonder why I have so much trouble forming a mutual connection with someone. Maybe some people are just generally more compatible than others. Link to post Share on other sites
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