Surfca26 Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 OK I need some advice and HELP. Long story short my ex bf and I broke up 2 years ago next week, we were in a 2.5 year relationship. Neither one of us cheated on the other and basically we kindof met when we were too young and immature. He smoked a lot of weed and I thought it came before me and I was a selfish prick who put myself in front of everything. We also didnt have personal lives outside our relationship. We maintained our friendship, hung out and basically just became close friends. He's my best friend who I call when things arent going so good and vice versa. We tried dating other people these last 2 years and well, usually I end up call him when a date goes sour. He does the same. We hung out last night for Sushi and ended up drinking up a storm, went back to his place and well you can put two and two together. My heart tells me to go for it while my mind is like "slow down." What I'm scared of is what if we get back together and we make the same mistakes we made previously? I know he has changed and so have I. When I write down the qualities I want in someone else he has them, no one will have em all, but he's what I want. I really dont know what to do, what if last night was just a quikie for him. When I spoke to him about it he was like "well I still see other people." I have a date tomorrow with someone else which I will cancel. What if this is just a convienance thing for us, ie, oh they free, here and now. I know its not for me. I dont know what to do. I'm hellof confused, I barely slept last night, barely ate today, and all the feelings I have for my ex are coming out at 1000MPH. Link to post Share on other sites
honey2005 Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 Well it sounds like you're in love. And I dunno, maybe he feels the same way. There's only one way to find out, and that's to ask. Just tell him how you feel and that trying to have a relationship again might be worth a shot. But if he says he wants to try the relationship deal again, don't move to fast, take it at a speed you will be able to notice the previous mistakes you made and avoid them. If he says he doesn't want a relationship with you, shrug it off, but be sure that next time the night seems like its going to end in "put two and two together" be sure that you don't let it end that way. If you really do love him don't just accept friends with benefits, not when you know you want more. But I'd say let your feelings known, then see where it goes from there. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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