Best ever relationship

[Radagast]

I am really enjoying being married to my wife. I could not think of any time I have been happier. We're safely beyond seven-year itches and hneymoon periods and it just keeps on getting better and better.

 

I have not had many other relationships. I "dated" a couple of women during my separation from my ex-wife but they were brief and forgettable, and other than that it was decades of monogamy, and a high school romance that was intense but ill-matched. But I know that even if I'd had dozens of past romances, this would still be my best ever relationship.

 

What was your best ever relationship? Is it the one you're in now? Was it one from your past?

[Danie]

I’m happy for you Radagast

 

My current relationship is absolutely my best ever. I love him and he loves me. I think our relationship is so good because we know each other deeply and we respect each other deeply. When we first started out we both were in the mindset of just enjoying the company and not wanting more. Everything we’ve done, seen, experienced…everything…just seems to have come naturally with no artifice. We are just we.

 

We met as equals and continued as equals. Over the years we’ve learned how to balance our personal strengths and weaknesses with each other for the greatest good of the family. It was sometimes a long hard struggle learning these things, but there is no one on God green Earth that I’d rather have so much shared history with than him.

[TigerCub]

Congrats Radagast - Happy to hear it!

 

My current relationship is the best one.

We're actually on Round 2.

We dated before (Round 1), but we broke up and almost 5 years later, we found each other again, and things just fit this time.

 

We both grew so much in that time apart and I do believe that timing can sometimes be everything.

 

He's the sweetest guy ever, he's smart, generous and "movie" romantic , we have so much love, respect and loyalty to one another and it really is the best and healthiest relationship I've ever had. And we make each other laugh and he loves the dorkiest things about me - so it must be love

[wellwhynot]

The one I have now. It's as if I wrote down a wish and he came true. I know, cheesey but true.

[cocorico]

This one for sure! Nothing could have prepared me for how wonderful it is!

[frozensprouts]

( this is going to sound either really lame or really snarky, so I apologize in advance)

 

the best relationship I have ever had is with myself. It took a long time for me to finally realize that if I am ever going to be really happy with someone, i have to be happy with myself first. Once I was, then my relationship with my husband felt so much better to me. It wasn't that it was not good, but there were times I would push bad feelings away as I didn't want to make him unhappy.

I don't do that anymore, and he doesn't expect me to. It's much better to talk about them. Otherwise, they fester and end up poisoning you inside.

[trinity1]

The one I have now. It's as if I wrote down a wish and he came true. I know, cheesey but true.

 

Me too.

 

We met when we were teenagers and then again some 30 years later. We both had fond memories of our summer of love, but of course had to once again explore each other. As his personality unfolded, to my astonishment my memories not only proved to be true but every characteristic I didn't remember was all I had ever wished for in a man. I can still hardly believe that I have met a man who fits me so.

[seren]

Mine is with my husband, we have been together 27 yrs and despite the bad and sad times, he is the one who totally floats my boat, or I wouldn't be here. We laugh lots, have our little routines, things that make us go oooh and times where we need to be in different rooms for a while, but because we have weathered huge storm we appreciate the calm.

 

My favourite time, other than long lie in's is when he comes home from work, we sit on our garden bench watching our dogs, drinking a cup of coffee and the whole world just seems right. I look at him and my heart still flip flops, I still get the kiss on the back of the neck when I am least expecting it and I have his back, he mine.

 

H made a lot of sacrifices for me these last few years, I am immensely touched by some of the things he does and in his wallet he carries a dried out forget me not from 27 years ago which he has kept through numerous wallet changes. I found a whole case of my letters and cards to him and despite the A, he is the person I will make dust with for ever.

 

We laugh as we get older and sometimes he needs a leg massage for cramp or I need a hand up because of my illness, but despite it all he is always there for me. Thinking of all this makes me smile. Yep, the one with my husband is still the best relationship ever.

[xxoo]

My marriage is my best ever relationship. It is also my only relationship , but it is genuinely very loving and happy!

[Zane Lovepoxx]

I'm happy for all of you That's what I've really hoped for.

 

I can relate to how you're all feeling. However, I am not in one right now.

 

I used to be with someone for almost a decade, we were together all throughout our twenties and we enjoyed a lot of common things and activities. I was the one at fault for breaking up the relationship and I am reaping the consequences of it even four years after. He was kind, gentle, a really level headed and balanced man. He was quick to resolve matters of difference and has a good sense of leadership. He's fun to be with, he's creative and when he sets his mind into something, he really focuses on it. He never cheated on me. He never flirts with anyone. We had that kind of relationship that was like John and Yoko. We were best friends. We were a team. Everyone felt that. I felt the greatest degree of kind and unselfish love from him. I was stupid for thinking I needed to explore and establish my own identity, when I was truly doing great in my career and other pursuits. I was selfish and ambitious. I realized how much I've lost now. And there was no one who can really match him. He really is a man of great standards. I salute and honor the memory of those years by being happy for him in the new season of his life.

 

So, may I serve as a warning to those who are still thinking of the "what if there's something better", Please, I beg you. Don't waste the great thing that you have now. You don't want to be saying " I used to have the best".

[Radagast]

I'm happy for all of you That's what I've really hoped for.

 

I can relate to how you're all feeling. However, I am not in one right now.

 

I used to be with someone for almost a decade, we were together all throughout our twenties and we enjoyed a lot of common things and activities. I was the one at fault for breaking up the relationship and I am reaping the consequences of it even four years after. He was kind, gentle, a really level headed and balanced man. He was quick to resolve matters of difference and has a good sense of leadership. He's fun to be with, he's creative and when he sets his mind into something, he really focuses on it. He never cheated on me. He never flirts with anyone. We had that kind of relationship that was like John and Yoko. We were best friends. We were a team. Everyone felt that. I felt the greatest degree of kind and unselfish love from him. I was stupid for thinking I needed to explore and establish my own identity, when I was truly doing great in my career and other pursuits. I was selfish and ambitious. I realized how much I've lost now. And there was no one who can really match him. He really is a man of great standards. I salute and honor the memory of those years by being happy for him in the new season of his life.

 

So, may I serve as a warning to those who are still thinking of the "what if there's something better", Please, I beg you. Don't waste the great thing that you have now. You don't want to be saying " I used to have the best".

 

I'm really sorry to read this. I hope you meet someone else who can bring out the same response in you.

[Radagast]

We had a party during the long weekend and at one point someone spoke about their father who they'd recently admitted to a care home and had been to see just earlier that day. He had been reminiscing and had mentioned to his daughter that while he would always have a soft spot for her mother, the love of his life was a woman he had loved and lost before marrying her mother. She felt rather disturbed by this, all the more so when he told her that her mother had of course known all about this and was just grateful to be with the man of her dreams even if she knew she would never be the woman of his dreams. Her mother died a few years ago. Some of our other friends said they had heard similar admissions from their parents or friends of their parents or others of that generation, that it was more accepted that sometimes it was a case of love the one you're with because you couldn't be with the one you loved and that it was only our generation onward that had these ideas about having to live out your life with your "soulmate". I found it terribly sad.

 

My wife is absolutely the love of my life and I know that if I had love her and lost her I would rather be alone than with someone else.

[2sure]

Donna - thats the sweetest and most sincere post Ive ever read here. I love that this is your life right now.

[frozensprouts]

My current relationship, soon to be marriage, is the best I've ever had. In the past I used to settle (like many of us do when we're young) and, of course, things never went well in the long run. I finally went through a period in my life where I stopped even wanting a relationship. Then my sweetheart started courting me (yes, courting me - it was SO sweet! ) and I told him I wasn't interested in anything long term. He said he wasn't either because of past hurts by some horrid women in hs life.

 

Turns out he's the best man I've ever known or ever could know. He has the best heart, a gentle nature, he's very smart, and very giving. I'm so happy, and I thank my lucky stars every single day that we were brought together.

 

it took all your past experiences to make the two of you who you are today...and who you are is two people who are every much in love and devoted to each other.

 

you are getting married for all the right reasons, and i wish you many years of happiness together.

[Els]

Aww, lots of sweet posts here.

 

Definitely the current one. I don't know what I've done to deserve such a genuinely good guy, but if karma is real, I must've been some sort of saint in my past life.

[irin]

We had a party during the long weekend and at one point someone spoke about their father who they'd recently admitted to a care home and had been to see just earlier that day. He had been reminiscing and had mentioned to his daughter that while he would always have a soft spot for her mother, the love of his life was a woman he had loved and lost before marrying her mother. She felt rather disturbed by this, all the more so when he told her that her mother had of course known all about this and was just grateful to be with the man of her dreams even if she knew she would never be the woman of his dreams. Her mother died a few years ago. Some of our other friends said they had heard similar admissions from their parents or friends of their parents or others of that generation, that it was more accepted that sometimes it was a case of love the one you're with because you couldn't be with the one you loved and that it was only our generation onward that had these ideas about having to live out your life with your "soulmate". I found it terribly sad.

 

My wife is absolutely the love of my life and I know that if I had love her and lost her I would rather be alone than with someone else.

 

 

that is my absolute worst nightmare, while reading that made my stomach turn. :(

[Toots]

 

What was your best ever relationship? Is it the one you're in now? Was it one from your past?

 

We were 9 years old. He was the new kid from out of town. I was the geeky girl who knew lots about stuff and little about relationships with other kids. Sally had teased me about not having a boyfriend, said I must be a lesbian. Michael offered to be my boyfriend. We sat together at break every day after that, until he moved again. It was sweet, uncomplicated, honest.

 

Beyond that, probably my R with xMM. Free from gender politics or complications, it was good while it lasted.

[standtall]

My wife is an absolute angel sent from heaven. She helped save me 23 yrs ago, and after 16 yrs of marriage and 3 children, I'm more in love with her now than when we met.

[RickFox]

I'm happy for all of you That's what I've really hoped for.

 

I can relate to how you're all feeling. However, I am not in one right now.

 

I used to be with someone for almost a decade, we were together all throughout our twenties and we enjoyed a lot of common things and activities. I was the one at fault for breaking up the relationship and I am reaping the consequences of it even four years after. He was kind, gentle, a really level headed and balanced man. He was quick to resolve matters of difference and has a good sense of leadership. He's fun to be with, he's creative and when he sets his mind into something, he really focuses on it. He never cheated on me. He never flirts with anyone. We had that kind of relationship that was like John and Yoko. We were best friends. We were a team. Everyone felt that. I felt the greatest degree of kind and unselfish love from him. I was stupid for thinking I needed to explore and establish my own identity, when I was truly doing great in my career and other pursuits. I was selfish and ambitious. I realized how much I've lost now. And there was no one who can really match him. He really is a man of great standards. I salute and honor the memory of those years by being happy for him in the new season of his life.

 

So, may I serve as a warning to those who are still thinking of the "what if there's something better", Please, I beg you. Don't waste the great thing that you have now. You don't want to be saying " I used to have the best".

 

Really hit home with this. I have not lost the best thing that ever happened to me but because I strayed outside my marraige, I nearly did. I thought the grass was greener and learned that it was actually burnt and dead. I have alot of work to do to fix what I nearly destroyed but things are much better now than they have been and I finally see what I have right here at home and what real love is. She has had her heart stomped on by me after I ripped it from her chest and yet she is still here, loving me like she always has and I see a better future for us, a stronger marriage and it's a shame I had to betray her in order for me to see what I truly had at home and that all I needed or wanted was right next to me the whole time. I'm thankful that she is still with me, she is my best friend and my love and I've learned a great deal from this horrific experience.

[cocorico]

I think it's only with age and maturity that "best ever" becomes possible. I know if I had met my SO ten, fifteen years ago, we would not have had the R we have today because neither of us would have been the person we are today. I love who he is now, and he loves who I am now, and we were ready for the love we have now in a way we may well not have been back then.