Ashmoore Posted May 15, 2012 Share Posted May 15, 2012 Okay, My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year and we are both in our late twenties. I recently found out that he ordered two pairs of thongs off ebay.... He had them sent to his step-mothers house and that was almost 3 weeks ago so I know he has gotten them by now. I was snooping when I found emails I admit I was worng to snoop. He ordered thongs (one of which vibrates) had them sent somewhere else other than our house (we live together) and hasn't given them to me.... What does this mean?? We are almost always together and he doesn't keep his phone hid and will answer it in front of me.... I haven't said anything to him because I know it will just cause a huge fight! I need some honest advice!! P.S I know they were not for him.... Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted May 15, 2012 Share Posted May 15, 2012 P.S I know they were not for him.... How can you be sure? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashmoore Posted May 15, 2012 Author Share Posted May 15, 2012 How can you be sure? That is the one thing I am sure of. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted May 15, 2012 Share Posted May 15, 2012 They were probably for him. Perhaps his disappears to Rio for Carnivale every year. One night he likes the wild side. The other night he likes the very wild side. Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted May 15, 2012 Share Posted May 15, 2012 (edited) My honest advice is to ask him directly and admit that you were snooping. Otherwise, if you think he's cheating on you and thus you decided to snoop, I think you need more evidence than some sex toys that he hasn't introduced into your relationship. Edit: Having looked at your posting history, it seems that pretty much every thread you've started suggests that you don't trust your boyfriend. Time to have that talk. Edited May 15, 2012 by january2011 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashmoore Posted May 15, 2012 Author Share Posted May 15, 2012 My honest advice is to ask him directly and admit that you were snooping. Otherwise, if you think he's cheating on you and thus you decided to snoop, I think you need more evidence than some sex toys that he hasn't introduced into your relationship. Edit: Having looked at your posting history, it seems that pretty much every thread you've started suggests that you don't trust your boyfriend. Time to have that talk. Thats the thing, we use toys together, he has never hidden any of them from me before and its not just a sex toy its a pair of womens thongs.... Im not afraid for him to know I was snooping. We are in a relationship and live in the same house, he shouldnt be keeping anything from me at all. I have the right to know. Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted May 15, 2012 Share Posted May 15, 2012 Talk to him. But your previous threads suggest that you don't trust him. Either he is untrustworthy, you're particularly sensitive to this type of behaviour or both. Until you talk to him, you're not really going to get to the bottom of this. Even if you snoop, there could be so much relevant information that you're missing because you're not asking him directly. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted May 15, 2012 Share Posted May 15, 2012 Is your birthday, anniversary or any other special day coming up? That's some kind of wedgie... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted May 15, 2012 Share Posted May 15, 2012 You live together but he has them sent to his Step Mom's... I know I have stuff sent to my work all the time but I sure wouldn't have anything sent to a family members house instead of my own. A sex toy going to my Mom's.. I don't think so.... All you can do is ask him.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted May 15, 2012 Share Posted May 15, 2012 They aren't that great. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashmoore Posted May 15, 2012 Author Share Posted May 15, 2012 You live together but he has them sent to his Step Mom's... I know I have stuff sent to my work all the time but I sure wouldn't have anything sent to a family members house instead of my own. A sex toy going to my Mom's.. I don't think so.... All you can do is ask him.. My thoughts exactly.. if they were for me then why did he have them sent to her house?? Why did he not have them sent to our house, unless he is trying to hide them from me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashmoore Posted May 15, 2012 Author Share Posted May 15, 2012 Is your birthday, anniversary or any other special day coming up? That's some kind of wedgie... Funny you should ask because our anniversary just passed and he completely ignored it... Not so much as a card. Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted May 15, 2012 Share Posted May 15, 2012 Funny you should ask because our anniversary just passed and he completely ignored it... Not so much as a card. When's his step-mother's birthday then? idk, he could be a little kinky, and you just dont know. If it was for a lover, then I would have thought it less hassle & less tracable, just dropping into a sex toy shop on the way to her place, paying cash and maybe even getting it gift wrapped. If its going to cause a huge fight, then let it go for the time being and keep your eyes open for any other signs. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted May 15, 2012 Share Posted May 15, 2012 When's his step-mother's birthday then? ewww...... Ick! Thank you so much for that image... Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted May 15, 2012 Share Posted May 15, 2012 Funny you should ask because our anniversary just passed and he completely ignored it... Not so much as a card. One-year anniversary and you didn't celebrate? In my book, that's not on the 'good signs' page. To reiterate, I think you guys need to talk. For the last few months at least, you've stopped trusting him. You really need to talk and find out what's going on. Link to post Share on other sites
dasein Posted May 15, 2012 Share Posted May 15, 2012 Does he have a bachelor party coming up anytime soon? A gag gift opportunity at work? Does his stepmother have a lingerie shower coming up? or a gag gift opp of her own? I have an aunt I would send such to as a joke or if she wanted gag gifts for something but was too embarrassed to order herself, just one more possibility. Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted May 15, 2012 Share Posted May 15, 2012 Your BF is so completely up to something, esp based on your past threads. I would confront him immediately and likely end up dumping him. Link to post Share on other sites
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