I should of been smarter

[livenlearn]

I am not really looking for advice because I accept that its over, I just want some imput on it. Well, I just want to rambling about my just recently ended relationship. It's just it bugs me that I placed my self in a situation to be hurt. Well, it's all starts when a friend of mine one day goes up to me and ask for help about her recent break up. Well she was a good friend of mine so I was there for her. She was pretty depressed and sad. So I made sure I was always there to comfort her. From that our friendship become closer than ever. We started to know more about each other during that time span and we been friends for years. Well we got close and shared alot of persoanl stuff together. People who saw us thought that we were probably going to get together. To me, at that time I only saw her as a friend. But then one night, it seemed like we could be more than friends. To me I was hesistant, because I didn't want to lose the friendship. But I had too much feelings for her so I asked her out and she said yes. Well it was great, it seemed so perfect. We seemed like we really loved each other. But then one night, she told me she wanted to talk. Didn't know why, because everything ok, we had no arguements, we had no problems. She told me that she wanted to be honest with me and that she went to see her ex and that it seems like she isnt over him. So we ended. They probably got back together. And I accepted it. Well I had too. That thing is, I should of been smarter, I thought she was already over him, when I did ask her out, but I guess I found out she wasn't. I will be honest I am still sad, because the time I was with her I did give her all my love and I thought she was giving me the same. Now, I think we are still friends, I am not mad at her. It's just I am mad at myself. I guess I was wrong to thing she gave me all the attention back then to be with me, she gave me all that attention because she was lonely and needed someone, and I was the one that was available. Now I hope our friendship remains because I still know she is a great person to still include in my life.

[Brookiedoll87]

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Don't Put your self down about it. You cant help who you like. Just like your Screen name.."Live n Learn." You may be depressed or feeling you could of prevented it but fate always takes its course. Just be patient with yourself. Think about the good you got out of the relationship. Try and be friends with her. Although you wont ever have the same "friendship" you once had, at least you come out of it with her still close to you, as well as experience in life. Cheer up about Your as smart as you want to be. And for you to handle it like you did from what i read, your pretty smart !

[honey2005]

You shouldn't be mad at yourself. It wasn't your fault you started to like someone that seemed to like you back. How were you to know she wasn't really over her ex? I'm really sorry that you were hurt like that, but there's no need to blame yourself. Things like this happen all this happen all the time, when someone ends a relationship they're hurt and confused, and can try seek comfort and love wherever they can. You were just a good friend and tried to make her feel better, and fell in a little bit too deeply. It's definitely not your fault, or hers for that matter. Just take this as a lesson not to get involved with someone right after a break up. I'm sorry you were hurt:(

[Good2Go]

Maybe she was just looking for a friend and you read into things. Happens all the time to no one's fault.

[livenlearn]

thanks for the posts

i guess i just need time to fully recover from this, from stop looking at my friend as a love one but back as a friend

i do understand the whole situation

hey she followed her heart

as i followed mine

but thats life and without the pain, the love, the happiness and the experiences we arent really living it

thanks again for the posts