xomandyraexo Posted May 15, 2012 Share Posted May 15, 2012 Ok so this is a situation that I want everyone to see both sides. There is a boyfriend and girlfriend who have been together 5 months. Before they got together the boyfriend was talking with an old school friend who moved away when they were young. They spent a lot of time together with her family as kieds. They decided he should come and visit the family. Then the guy goes and meets his current girlfriend. He is still texting this old school friend most days, even while at work. He is still planning on going to see her. The girlfriend is very uncomfortable by this. She isn't invited and he will be going to a neighboring state to see her/the family alone. She has told him that this makes her uncomfortable and afraid for their future. Yet he is still planning the trip and still talking to her a lot. He swears he wants to go see her brothers and parents as well as her, but he is only talking to her. Does this situation seem odd? What is everyone':confused:s opinion on what is going on here? Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted May 16, 2012 Share Posted May 16, 2012 Do you have any reason NOT to trust him? I mean, I have a girl that's a friend that I've know since we were kids. And I never had a sexually thought about her at all. It would be like dating my little sister....yuck.. But, she's one of my best friends and she loves to bust on me any chance she gets! Link to post Share on other sites
lynbetz Posted May 17, 2012 Share Posted May 17, 2012 This situation seems very odd. He probably does want to see her brothers and family, but the fact that he is texting her and not them would give me enough reason not to trust him. I would let him know exactly how it makes you feel and he should put you before any other girl. Perhaps ask him to invite her and her brothers to visit him so he doesn't need to go to her? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted May 17, 2012 Share Posted May 17, 2012 She isn't invited Has she simply not been invited, or has she actually been told that she is not invited? If the former, I would suggest going with him, and see his reaction. This should give you your answer. If the latter then it's definitely dodgy. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted May 17, 2012 Share Posted May 17, 2012 If the reason for the visit with the "friend" is because there are feelings there, then sorry, the situation has changed. The guy now has a gf, which can be easily explained as inappropriate to the other girl. And if feelings were there before the guy found his gf, then going to meet her still shows there are still feelings. I'd expect any woman, and rightfully so, to tell me to go to hell if I went out of state to meet another woman, no matter what the reason. Link to post Share on other sites
Author xomandyraexo Posted May 20, 2012 Author Share Posted May 20, 2012 Thanks for the input. I really just don't know what to think of it. He doesn't mind if I read the texts...Seems innocent enough on his part, but I sure as **** know her intentions. He doesnt see it, but I do. I am very close with his mom, I knew her before I knew him and I have talked to her about it. She says she doesn't think he will ever go see her for real. He works 14-16 hour days and has just Sat and Sun off and would have to use up a weekend(only time to get things done) to go see them. The texting with her has slowed down since I talked to him more about it. I really still dont know what to think though. We live together. We have lived together since 3 months into the relationship. I had just moved back to my hometown from 1100 miles away about 6 months before I met him. Its a small town and everyone knows everybody else, so we knew of eachother but didnt know one another personally. I was living with my parents when we started dating and I had saved up to get my own place, and he told me that my daughter (who is 4 and whos father is not in the picture) should just move in with him since his house is empty most the time bc he works so much. So I did. We just hit it off when we met. Until this everything has gone very smoothly. We have not argued or had anything come up that would even cause us to have differences. I am scared that things on this other womans end are different intentions than his. I have told him to just tell her to admit she has a crush on him, since he doesnt think so, and he says if that is the case he will tell her they cannot talk anymore. He swears that there is nothing there between them and that I have nothing to worry about. Do I just trust him since I have not been given reason by him to not trust him? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted May 21, 2012 Share Posted May 21, 2012 Have you tried inviting yourself along too? Say you've managed to gte the time off work or whatever and you can come along, isn't that great news! His face should give you the answer you're looking for. Link to post Share on other sites
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