Is she with someone else or am i paranoid...

[gateway865]

Ok, I will just start from the beginning. I have been with this girl for about 2 months. I will be honest, first date we ever had i sex with her later on that night ( keep in mind that i only talked to her once before which is how i got her number and decided to meet up later on during the week ). We get along pretty good and seem to always have a fun when we are together.

 

I work weird hours and i only have thursday and friday off during the week. At first i would get messages every day ( not all day but little text messages here and there ) and recently i started to notice that she would really only message often on wednesday and on saturday.

 

Well this is where things start to bother me or i guess is why i am getting a bit paranoid. She does have a child ( baby is about 3 months old and yes the baby is with us everytime we get together which doesn't bother me too much ) but she isn't working. I understand that having a child that young is a full time responsibility and requires alot of attention. I notice that outside of wednesday and saturday i receive very little messages from her and on monday mostly tuesday not at all ( and so you know i do message her even if its just a simple good morning when i get up from work..i usually don't reply back until she messages me back ).

 

At first i thought that maybe she is just being thoughtful because of how tired i usually am after work. I am assuming that this is all in my head but on tuesdays ( even if would say "hello, how are you doing?" i'd get no reply back until the next day ). Well this past tuesday she actually messaged me first saying that her phone is messed up and she is taking it in to get it fixed. ( yes the messages are from texting from her phone ) Anyway she says she won't be able to get back in touch with me until it gets fixed which she says hopefully only take a day or so.

 

Well i was understanding and told her to get in touch with me when she can ( her only means of communication are by her phone...she has no computer at least that is what she told me ). Wednesday approaches and i hear from here pretty early in the morning around 9 am and things proceeded as usual.

 

As for some other side night information, she has met my family and a few of my friends.. she stays with some roomates ( whom i never met because when i go to pick her up to take her to my place she usually waits outside or have me wait outside til she comes out ). The other thing that bothers me a bit is there are guys that message her ( trying to get with her asking her out on dates types thing ) and she tells me and shows me the messages. She always tells me that she tells them she has a bf and won't go out with them. She also has pictures with other guys ( on her phone she showed me ) and says they are gay and she has alot of gay friends so i shouldn't be concerned about it ( at first it didn't bother me too much because she is bi ).

 

Well anyway that is the situation, sorry if what i typed earlier was confusing but i figured i would get the whole story out there so i could receive fair information.

[Chi townD]

Yeah, I have to agree. Too vague. So, if you have concerns...you really need to talk to her and bring them up. I agree, having a 3 month old is very time consuming.

[g450]

I have kind of been there with the first date sex thing.

 

From my experience she is either:

 

Likes sex and you are one of many FBs,

 

Is looking to hook you as a sugare daddy,

 

Is looking for a step father for the kid,

 

Or may just be busy.

 

You have only been dating what, two months? If I were you I would communicate with her on where you stand exactly. You may not stand anywhere with her and she may just like sex. Its up to you to decide if you are OK with that.

 

In my case I got the "so you ever think of remarrying?" thing right after having sex so I knew exactly where I stood LOL.

[rach24680]

I think you're a bit paranoid to be honest!

How long have you been together?

Do you have any kids? Do you understand that a 3 month old baby takes up all your time? Maybe she goes to reply to the messages and gets side tracked by a screaming baby that needs bottles warming, clothes washing, feeding, nappy changing, taken out, ill etc etc..

Cut her some slack and maybe ask her why she only txts you on these days? Maybe she gets a baby sitter on those days or someone looks after her kid and she gets some free time to txt you?

The fact that she actually shows you the messages and pictures shows that she wants you to believe her and not hide things away from you.

All you can do is ask her face to face why she doesnt txt you on these days. But honestly, it seems like something over nothing. I wouldnt worry so much.

[wow04]

I am just going to throw this out there. I am a single mom of 4 kids, 13 yrs old, 8 yrs old, 5 yrs old, and a 3 yr old. They take up a lot of time. I work 45 hours a week and have 3 kids in sports. I still have time to text my boyfriend everyday.

 

You need to ask her what is going on. It sounds funny to me.

[g450]

Maybe she is alternating between two lovers.

 

OP is on odd days and other guy on even days.

You never know. Some women do crap like that, even ones with kids. I know one of them personally. She just didnt give a crap because she saw guys as being animals with no feelings who only wanted sex. Women like that really are out there. Thankfully she at least loved her kids. Only sad part was she didnt make it a big priority to hide her activities from her kids and I think they may suffer from this in the future.

 

OP, you are in doubt and rightly so. If its bad enough for you to post here I would seriously consider cutting my loses with the woman. You are not a priority to her. And I got news for you, since she has kids you will never be number one so let that sink in while you look for a woman with no kids.