Trusting people you know and love

[Emilia]

My mother has just tried to trick me into becoming a guarantor for her mortgage. She didn't see it as tricking of course, she just thought if she told me things on a 'need to know' basis, it would be enough. She tried to make out she would need my bank and salary details as some small formality but as I have owned several properties over the years I knew straight away what was going on of course. She then tried to guilt-trip me into it and I made it very clear that it was a no and the subject was closed. I'll be listening to this for years to come

 

So my question is: do you have many people in your life that you can trust? Anyone whose word you can take as gospel? I can trust my sister 100%, that's about it. Still that's something.

[gaius]

So my question is: do you have many people in your life that you can trust? Anyone whose word you can take as gospel? I can trust my sister 100%, that's about it. Still that's something.

I only have one too, my uncle! When I was younger my mother informed me she was having some severe money issues, then a few weeks later said she wanted to take out a life insurance policy on me “just in case”. Given other past events I really thought she was considering offing me for the insurance money. I haven't let her cook just for me since.

 

I have one friend who I trust also, so I'm lucky in that regard.

[Emilia]

I only have one too, my uncle! When I was younger my mother informed me she was having some severe money issues, then a few weeks later said she wanted to take out a life insurance policy on me “just in case”. Given other past events I really thought she was considering offing me for the insurance money. I haven't let her cook just for me since.

 

I have one friend who I trust also, so I'm lucky in that regard.

 

Are you serious? Hahaha you've got to love it.

 

Yes I know a couple of non-family people I could probably trust too but nothing has happened yet that would test it.

[pink_sugar]

My husband and maybe a few friends. Unfortunately, my family has disappointed me one too many times.

[january2011]

I don't trust anyone 100% with anything or everything. I trust most people to a reasonable degree for certain things though.

 

Having said that, sometimes I throw caution to the wind and give people the chance to surprise me - because you never know when someone might actually have your back.

[Anela]

I can no longer trust my sister 100%. I trust very few people, but I vacillate between opening up and shutting people out a bit.

[gaius]

Are you serious? Hahaha you've got to love it.

 

Yes I know a couple of non-family people I could probably trust too but nothing has happened yet that would test it.

Oh I'm serious. Suddenly became important for her to insure a guy in his 20's with no medical issues. She's committed fraud before so maybe she forged my name and got it anyways, who knows. I'll just keep saying I'm on a diet. No return on that investment for her!

 

Glad you have a few other friends to lean on!

[Emilia]

I don't trust anyone 100% with anything or everything. I trust most people to a reasonable degree for certain things though.

 

Having said that, sometimes I throw caution to the wind and give people the chance to surprise me - because you never know when someone might actually have your back.

 

I suppose this is the most sensible approach. I have some very decent friends though most of them live far away from me. I'm envious when I hear about close families or how some go home at the time of crisis for respite. It would be great to have that

[Emilia]

She's committed fraud before so maybe she forged my name and got it anyways, who knows.

 

Yes it could be the case for me too, was wondering last night how far she would go with this.

 

I'll just keep saying I'm on a diet. No return on that investment for her!

 

 

[Emilia]

My husband and maybe a few friends. Unfortunately, my family has disappointed me one too many times.

 

Your husband is the most important person though unless you have kids. The person you choose for yourself is the one you really want to be able to trust.

[d'Arthez]

I can trust most of my family 100%. I come from an extremely low drama family. We love helping each other out. Strange enough (perhaps) we don't communicate that often with each other. For example, I can go months without speaking to my mother, and that does not result in any drama.

[Emilia]

I can go months without speaking to my mother' date=' and that does not result in any drama.[/quote']

 

Does this mean though that you are not very close? While frequent drama is not great you get some by close interaction with people.

[d'Arthez]

We don't need to know all the details of our respective lives. We do call, write emails, etc., when something does come up, but if life is pretty bland, we don't actively push for contact. We are not obliged, nor do we feel obliged to speak to each other, and that is perhaps why we are closer than outsiders may think. We are close, but not constantly on each other's lips. We simply don't try and run the lives of others, or use each other for our own selfish purposes.

 

My ex was a different story. I think she still speaks to her mother on a weekly basis, but that relationship does have its obvious tensions. Sometimes she dreaded having to talk to her mother.