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Ruby Slippers

I'm feeling sorry for myself today. I've been dating, but I haven't met a good match yet. I've got two different invitations for the weekend, and though I want to accept at least one of them because it's better than sitting home lonely and sad, I am almost certain there's no real future with this guy - so I think I should just rip the band-aid off, rather than drawing it out.

 

I've been making some cavalier decisions lately, and I'm realizing what the reason really comes down to is that I'm lonely and tired of being single. I'm hoping that if I try something different, just be lighter about everything, it will improve results. But all it does when I come back down to earth is make me wonder what in the hell I was thinking.

 

Anybody else in the same boat? Nothing to help you laugh your way out of your sad sack like other people who get it.

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Have you ever read Tuesdays With Morrie? During my freshman year a friend lent it to me for winter break. I couldn't put it down and had finished it within days.

 

It is about a student who visits his professor when he learns the professor has contracted ALS and is dying. It talks about a lot of what someone goes through when they know the end is near. There is a quote that always stuck with me even though I haven't picked up the book in years

 

The professor says:

I don’t allow myself any more self-pity than that. A little each morning, a few tears, and that’s all . . . . It’s horrible to watch my body slowly wilt away to nothing. But it’s also wonderful because of all the time I get to say goodbye.”

 

Self-pity is fine, a little each morning. After that don't let it consume you, get out and enjoy life.

 

Hope that helps:).

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Anybody else in the same boat? Nothing to help you laugh your way out of your sad sack like other people who get it.

 

I very much feel this same way...not just with dating, but with life in general...

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Have you ever read Tuesdays With Morrie? During my freshman year a friend lent it to me for winter break. I couldn't put it down and had finished it within days.

 

It is about a student who visits his professor when he learns the professor has contracted ALS and is dying. It talks about a lot of what someone goes through when they know the end is near. There is a quote that always stuck with me even though I haven't picked up the book in years

 

The professor says:

I don’t allow myself any more self-pity than that. A little each morning, a few tears, and that’s all . . . . It’s horrible to watch my body slowly wilt away to nothing. But it’s also wonderful because of all the time I get to say goodbye.”

 

Self-pity is fine, a little each morning. After that don't let it consume you, get out and enjoy life.

 

Hope that helps:).

 

Incredibly touching and apt advice. :)

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Self-pity is fine, a little each morning. After that don't let it consume you, get out and enjoy life.

 

Hope that helps:).

Yeah, it does. Friends were over tonight for dinner, and they basically said the same thing. I am not gonna wallow. The summer is going to be too beautiful for that.

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