Leigh 87 Posted May 27, 2012 Share Posted May 27, 2012 wow - some people here are just not that nice to other people! Look - I understand - you worked hard for your money, why waste it on people? I agree - people should look after themselves, and not feel entitled! Moreover, it is better to get into a relationship where the adult can support themselves financially. That said - without expecting him to pay, if a guy is INTO a girl, he SHOULD at least shout her sometimes, without expecting her to pay them back! Seriously!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can not IMAGINE being with a guy, where if he shouted me ONE thing - such as a movie ticket, a football game, or a meal - if he kept tabs on it every single time, and NEVER just outright brought ME a movie ticket..... he is either not a very generous person, or he is NOT THAT INTO ME! Seriously... No one should expect anything: no one is entitled to their partners cash: however, as long as the guy can aFFORD a movie ticket once a week, why the heck NOT pay for a girl your into, to do small things now and again? SHeesh guys!@ Do you proponents AGAINST the OP'S mindset, get girls you truly LOVE or are really INTO early on, and literally keep EVERY PENNY to yourself - NEVER buy her anything nice, never pay for a meal, and most telling, do you keep tabs on EVERY SINGLE THING you buy for them, and want her to re- stock your wallet for a lousy 10 dollars!? Link to post Share on other sites
soserious1 Posted May 27, 2012 Share Posted May 27, 2012 (edited) So, if I am understanding you correctly, you let this man know at the beginning of your relationship that you intended to pay your full share of dating expenses? He took you at your word & expects you to pay your share & now you're calling him cheap? I'm sorry but I am not seeing the logic here? If you feel that the " extras" you have been providing to him ie: baking cookies & the like aren't appreciated or you find that you no longer get pleasure from providing extras then simply stop doing it. Doing extra stuff with a hidden agenda, expecting that he'll reciprocate is unfair. The amount of money he earns has nothing to do with you, if you cannot afford to pay for half of an activity he's proposed, then you tell him that, if he does 't offer to cover your share then obviously you won't be enjoying that event together & will need to plan something agreeable to you both that is within your budget. Btw, his income is not large, in many urban areas he'd be struggling to make his rent, car payment and student Loan debt obligations. And yes, if somebody is nice enough to fork over cash in a pinch, it should be repaid ASAP, it's a loan, not some sort of dating perk. Edited May 27, 2012 by soserious1 Link to post Share on other sites
musemaj11 Posted May 27, 2012 Share Posted May 27, 2012 Calling a man 'cheap' is a common shaming tactic used by women to make a man feel bad for not spending money on them. If anything, women are the cheapest because they dont even want to pay for their own expense! Its regrettable that a lot of men fall for this manipulation. Link to post Share on other sites
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